Apologies in advance- this is a bit long- am v sleep deprived and muddled about what to do...
My eleven week old DD has co-slept with us since birth as she steadfastly refused to go in her Moses basket. I can now get her to bed in there for some of the evening - 4 or 5 hours if I am very lucky but often more like two or three. After that, she's in with us, and feeding every 2-3 hours. Attempts to get her back in her basket result in a lot of screaming and I don't have the energy at the moment to settle her, I'm just too tired (I also have two other DCs). She settles ok-ish at bedtime (any time between 7 and 8.30) as I think she's so tired, and also tanked up on milk (though I don't always feed to sleep- sometimes she is awake when I put her down, then rock a little, blast some white noise), but she won't go back in after that first night feed.
I wouldn't mind her being in with us if she wasn't so unsettled - she pretty much has to lie on me, and then she wriggles around loads, stirring often, doing that funny head-rubbing on my chest that babies do, sometimes really waking crying a lot, and often I just end up feeding her to get her off again, even though I know she's not really hungry, as I know she can do decent stretches both day and night without food (well, 4 or 5 hours). She does seem to be a restless, light sleeper - she does the classic half hour naps all day too, waking after that first sleep cycle, unless she's in the sling- but she hates being swaddled, so I can't do that.
I feel as if there are tons of things here I'm trying to sort out and don't quite know what I'm asking! I guess the main thing is how to get her to settle again in the night in her basket- though I just don't hold out much hope for that. I wonder if concentrating on naps in the day will help- generally trying to get her to settle more easily in her basket and to be happy there? At the moment she does nap in there (for those half hour cat naps...) but does need quite a bit of rocking/white noise to settle her.
Also does anyone else have a restless, twitchy baby like mine, who is generally v unsettled at night? I wonder if it's wind- she does sometimes seem to wake herself up with ginormous farts...but it's exhausting being woken up pretty much every hour after about 3am by a wriggling/squawking baby.
Gah apologies for rambling post and hope some of you have made it through it!