9 month old trying to kill me!

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Me again!
My DS still does not sleep it's a month since we stopped Cc which made my bad sleeper a nightmare sleeper
He wakes at 11/11:30 when DH comes home so he has a feed then and then sometimes goes till 3 when he has another feed and then we get up at 5:45

That's a good night the last few weeks he would wake about 5 or 6 times crying uncontrolably so he ends up in our bed out of desperation for just a little rest. I don't have a problem with co sleeping but don't want to do that every night! Could it be teething that's bothering him so much?
Can any one speak from experience or offer advice I'm counting down days to going back to work and won't cope on 2 or 3 hours sleep!

Why don't you try (if you haven't already) paracetamol before bed. That should help if it is teeth - it hurts more when they are lying down because of added pressure to gums.

This is age for separation anxiety really kicking in to. We were back to hourly wakings at 9 months because he started nursery with me going back to work and needed extra reassurance through the night.

For what's its worth, being back at work is tough but I've found the change of environment and doing something different from child care means I feel less tired than if I was at home looking after LO all day.

We've been co-sleeping for survival but about to address that soon.

Good luck to you!

I tried calpol at bed time, but I started feeling guilty how much meds can such a little person have? I only gave it too him 3 nights running but it didn't make too much difference in his crap sleep! :(

Good luck with not co-sleeping! That's a hurdle for us too!

I was worried about meds too - endless colds that turned into a chest infection meant lots of paracetamol. I asked pharmacist who said it was ok to give for a couple of weeks.

But if it didn't make much difference that's maybe not the answer.

Thanks for the reassurance about the meds! I had a good look in his mouth looks like 3 possibly 4 teeth making their way out so I guess I need to ride this out! Calpol at the ready and a gap between DH and I for the next couple of weeks?

I remember saying that exact same phrase with my daughter! It does get better... Not that that helps you right now I realise.

Does he sleep when with you? If so is his problem separation anxiety?

Is he comfortable? My daughter suffered badly with teething and certainly made herself heard about it! But Calpol did help so maybe that's not it.

Hunger/cold or too hot? Could you try playing white noise?

Can he fall asleep by himself?

He can fall asleep by himself, I put him down awake but drowsy at bed time and he does did 5 hour stretches before so he must have settled himself in that time? He does have a dummy when he sleeps but can find it and put it in his mouth by himself.

He has separation anxiety looses the plot when I leave a room or when DH goes to work. So I guess that could be an issue!

He still fusses/ and moans when he in bed with us but atleast then I don't have to get up?

someone should invent baby sleeping drops they will make a fortune!

Well him going to sleep by himself is a big help I think and at least you know he can do it. My DD is still reliant on her dummy but was a life saver for us at about that age, we used to put about 5 in her cot so she could always get one!

I remember reading somewhere that games like peek a boo can help with separation anxiety so LO learns gently that you can be out of sight but not 'gone' . If this is the issue for him, my view would be that harsh sleep training won't help but will just heighten his anxiety and I would (and did successfully) go with a gentle approach, always going to him but putting him back down in cot once calm and doing so repeatedly (even if it feels like you're doing it a million times) so he learns you'll always come to him but at night time he goes back to sleep in his own bed.

Thanks finding! I will go but more dummies today, got glow in the dark ons that he doesn't like ;)
And will from tonight calm him down and putting him in his own bed! We had a great night last night but he was with me the whole night and for us co sleeping can't be a permanent solution!

I remember we ended cosleeling to survive. We got a bed rail DH set up in the guest room. Sorry.

DH has no such luxury we only have 2 bedrooms :)
DS doesn't move a muscle when he sleeps with us, but rolls around like a maniac in his own bed?!

He did it! Slept in his own bed! :) he did wake up at 11 and 4 to feed but so much better than the previous nights!