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1week old baby awake at night

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SJBB · 02/05/2014 12:27

Hiya

Please help im so stressed! I went to bed at around 10 last night and then OH brought babba up at half past, we then had an hours sleep each, and then I was awake feeding her then from about 12 to around 4 and OH woke at 4 for half hour we then managed to get sleep for 2 hours and then i woke at 6.50 for next feed and OH woke at 7.30 and took her downstairs and I then managed to sleep until about 10.20 this morning, when I came down he was all stressy and off with me saying oh good afternoon and said right im going have a nap now seeing as I went bed late and up early.. I said ok thank you as I was up all night with her he then text me from upstairs saying u can get up early with her tomorrow as i was up most of the night with you,

what do I say to this as feel like such a shit mum ???

Sorry for long post

OP posts:
littlepinkfizz · 02/05/2014 14:57

Don't stress! Your little baby is only a week old. You are all getting used to one another! Give yourselves time and take things as they come. Remember, nothing lasts forever!

gilliangoof · 02/05/2014 15:03

This sounds very typical of a new baby. Best thing is to not get annoyed with each other just because you are both tired. That will just make things worse.

A 'good afternoon' would make me mad.

mummy2pickle · 02/05/2014 17:39

don't think your a bad mum at all. we had very similar with ours and it is exhausting but you are doing fine. my baby is now 4 weeks old and still struggles with night time but it is normal for a baby so young. you need to get sleep as much as possible whenever so don't be worried by the comment made by your other half. we spent a lot of time arguing cos one got more sleep than than the other but it does get easier. honestly! !

3littlefrogs · 02/05/2014 17:42

This is absolutely normal.
If you are breast feeding you should just eat, sleep and feed.
If DH is home he should be doing everything else!
Take turns to sleep when you can.

katandkits · 05/05/2014 21:35

You are recovering from giving birth, he isn't. Your need to catch up on sleep is greater than his. While he is on paternity leave, split the day and night up into shifts. Harder if you are breastfeeding but easy if you are bottle feeding. If you are breastfeeding you probably will be up for big chunks of the night so he will have to put up with staying up late in the evening while you go to bed early for the next couple of months, that is what life with a newborn is like.

3littlefrogs · 05/05/2014 22:29

Your DH obviously knows nothing about babies.
Has he had any experience of younger siblings or extended family?
Has he read anything about newborns?
Any parenting books?
Attended any classes?

Mim78 · 07/05/2014 08:39

Dh is bu. you must have really needed that morning sleep and he was not up anything like as much as you.

UriGeller · 07/05/2014 09:04

Its a bonkers time and I wish new parents were just told that, instead of expecting life to go on as normal!

You are both going to say things you don't mean, crazy things. You'll wander round tesco without a clue as to why you are there. Sleep deprivation does strange things to people and it can become a competitive sport if you let it. (I do, DP knows he isn't even allowed to yawn near me because most nights I've been up since 3am with teething baby but we laugh about it).

The best thing you can do is laugh it off. You're both "new parent bonkers" for a while. Enjoy your baby, have fun Grin but dont let it divide you, stick together.

UriGeller · 07/05/2014 09:06

Oh, and go to bed early as possible! 10 is late for a new mum who needs to find sleep wherever you can get it.

thatdarncat · 07/05/2014 23:07

Congratulations on your precious bundle Smile

Like all the posters have said, it's a crazy time that you are never fully prepared for. Tiredness, responsibility and add to that the inevitable baby blues and you have a perfect storm. The good news? It doesn't last forever. Stick together and try to be easy on yourselves, take any offers of help and remember a bit of humour can help (I promise).

Your LO will feed often and sleep for short periods. Some babies sleep for long periods but most don't. Don't listen to others who go on about their sleeping angels from day 3, it really is the exception rather than the rule. I've been there and sympathise, DD was a very wakeful and nocturnal baby, and the anxiety I experienced at the prospect of each evening was terrible as I was lucky to get 3 broken hours at night, and i just couldnt sleep during the day. The elation I felt when I woke during the wee small hours to find I had had 5 hours after this was astounding, then 6 hours, then 7, and then you start to feel more human. It will pass, and you will wonder where the time went. Hope you don't have too long a night xxx

TheABC · 09/05/2014 20:19

Just to chip in, at a week old, the best thing you can do is stay in bed! Seriously, eat, feed baby, sleep. Stick baby in a Moses basket/crib/next to you in bed if you are cosleeping. Your bubs will be waking little and often to feed as s/he has a lot of growing to do on a small stomach. It will take time (my first six weeks are still really hazy), but you will get through it.

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