Bedtime disaster

[Shadyzladiixo]

My daughter is nearly 9 months and is so hard to get to bed, we bath her and then try to feed her in her room but she most now declines feeding and then screams like mad until she fls asleep then is awake by 4am to be fed! It's so tough listening to her scream but I have no idea how to get her to go down any other way!

Is she breast or bottle fed? If the latter, will she take te bottle from someone else? Can you feed her in another room? Is she taking solids ok? If this is recent, could she be teething and feeding is painful for her?

Bottle, my husband and I have both tried to no avail, she has 6 teeth but this has only started since most of those appeared, she screams and even if we leave her to cry she cries over an hour which is heartbreaking

Hiya, I'm not sure why your daughter is screaming before bed, is this normal for her or is this new behaviour?

Like Inthemiddleofourstreet says it could be teething or by what you say it could be that she's over tired and too wired to sleep and finding it hard to calm herself down.

My daughter would get over tired and we couldn't leave her to cry as she'd vomit. We discovered an acupressure point to help calm her down which would send her to sleep in a couple of minutes. Here's the link to my blog on this technique mydaughterwontsleep.com/2013/12/27/the-sleep-inducing-power-of-acupressure/ Now at 3.5yrs old, she does it on herself to go to sleep - it guess it's a form of self soothing.

If it's teething - it should pass once the teeth come through. My daughter was a terrible teether and in the end we used homeopathy to help her cope with the pain and sleep better - again here's the link to what we did if you're interested. mydaughterwontsleep.com/2014/02/21/teething-when-pain-relief-just-doesnt-cut-it/

Good luck and best wishes

She used to be very bad and then we reached a point where she would go down with no fuss but now it's becoming really difficult again! She wakes up frequently and always seems to only settle for milk not sure if I should do anything diff or not, I tried CIO but it wasn't any help made her worse in the long run!

Maybe try feeding her a bit earlier like before her bath, then get her ready for bed and settled a bit earlier. It could be that she's getting overtired and then getting in a state thus perpetuating the cycle. Good luck with it the first year is tough but it will get easier

I think I may just try that because she oddly sleeps worse with a bottle before bed than if he has one right before she is awake by 12 now every night!