14 month old betime issues

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Until last week my 14 month old DS went to bed by himself and self settled no problems. Our routine was tea at 5.30, bath, 20 mins of in the night garden, story and milk in his room then bed. He'd often play by himself in his cot before falling asleep but would do so easily by himself.

Nothing has changed with out routine but he cries the minute we leave the room. We tried leaving him for a bit but he just gets so worked up. We've been getting him to sleep by a combination of cuddles and or sitting in the dark humming! Once asleep he's asleep all night. (Touch wood!)

Any tips on how to deal with this? I don't want to make it worse.

No advice but my 11 month old is doing the same thing. He used to go to go to sleep quite happily with me in the room but I didn't have to do anything. Now he screams blue murder and I've had to revert to bf'ing him to sleep again - feel like we have taken a massive backwards step.

He also wakes up loads at night again. I think for my DS he has started with major separation anxiety and maybe teething. Has also been constipated and ill the last few weeks.

Will be watching this thread with interest for any tips!!

Not many tips coming!! I gave up bf about a month ago and do miss it. Currently lying on ds's bedroom floor trying not to fall asleep!

My DD has been through short phases of this, but is generally a very good settler (by herself) and has a very similar routine to your DS.

Her weird night time behaviour is nearly always down to teething; can you give him some calpol with dinner so it's definitely kicked in by bed time, then you know he's not in pain?

Other things that have helped: Letting her dad do the teeth/putting to bed bit. If it's me, she's often more likely to display separation problems when she's feeling a bit odd.

I would pop in and out, rather than lie on the floor. Put him down, let him cry for a couple of minutes, go in and reassure, repeat as many times as necessary. If none of this works, just do whatever you're doing now, and it'll pass. Everything is a phase!!