4mo sleep issues

[Haribolover]

Need some help to know if I am completely messing up DDs sleep now she is 4mo. Concerned I have made a real mess of things, not sure if we need to change things. Spending days stressing about it and arguing so much with DH marriage is on the rocks.

DD at night is currently fed to sleep and once she goes down wakes once or twice for a feed. The night feeds I'm fine with it's the need to feed to sleep each time. Occasionally she will go down slightly awake and self settle but most if not fully asleep it is tears and more food to send her over to sleep.

Naps are an issue too. She will sleep when out in car or buggy but otherwise it is feed to sleep and then sleep in me-if I put into cot she wakes immediately. She will go to sleep in DH if he bricks her but won't for me.

Tired last night putting her down awake and it ended in screaming and gave in and fed to sleep. Same with nap last week.

Help-carry on as is and will it get better on its own or need to do something and if so what. My sanity and marriage seem to be on the line.

Your daughter is still so young at 4mo, I wouldn't worry at this stage. She's just spent 9 months in the womb, no wonder she wants to be close to you when she sleeps.

My daughter was exactly the same, I couldn't put her down for the first 6 months. I wish I had just chilled out an enjoyed it. But so many people kept telling me I was spoiling her. So I felt terrible about it, but I couldn't do 'controlled crying'

At this stage babies need all the love and cuddles you can give right now. You could try tackling the problem a different way - using acupressure and baby massage to settle my daughter. I've blogged about it here if you're interested; mydaughterwontsleep.com/2014/01/08/the-power-of-a-mothers-touch/ Good luck with it all.