My 15 week old needs to be held all the time, she's getting a bit better & can now spend perhaps 20mins in her baby swing / play mat but is only really happy being held & facing outwards, she hates the sling. We've ruled out reflux because at night she's fine on her back. My DH gives her a bottle at 7 & rocks her to sleep in Moses basket, she tends to wake from 2-3am onwards & I BF in bed & keep her with me. Problem is I'm exhausted as I have a 3 year old at home too & I'm a SAHM without any family locally to help out. So I need the baby to nap during the day, especially as v active 3 year old has now dropped day time nap. Bit baby just howls & howls for every nap - I try everything & every device to get her to sleep (pram, rocking in Moses, swinging chair, rocking chair, car seat) but during the day all that works is feeding to sleep. I'm feeling terrible guilt as her nap times tend to coincide with times when my 3 year old needs me more so 9am and 4pm ( big nap at lunch time never ever happens) & at these times I often have to put her down, crying, to deal with eldest. This leaves all of us upset :( I feel like I'm letting my eldest down as for her I must be constantly holding this screaming baby...and for baby I feel like I'm always leaving her to cry which goes against all my instincts & upsets me terribly. I'm so exhausted - please help!!