Night waking, wants to sleep with us

[webb2511]

Hi all, my DS is 2yrs 8months and rarely ever sleeps right through the night. Can anyone offer me any tips (other than a star chart, he's not interested) to get him sleeping through. Since christmas I think he has only slept through approx 10 times. He doesn't cry or wnat anything, other than to sleep in our bed. This is particularly hard for my DH who has to get up at 5am for work.

I work four days a week, and DH does split shifts, so I often wonder if this is a separation issue and he likes to sleeps with us, as this the only real time he gets to spend with both of us at the same time?! Am I barking up the wrong tree?

Also would like another baby soon, can't see that happening with an extra body in our bed!

my ds started trying this one too - he still wakes every 2nd night or so and cries for mummy or milk. He says - 'side you' and I have to be firm and keep saying I'm just next door if you need me. Milk is usually a good substitute though. I have put a night light outside his bedroom door as he seemed to be afraid if he woke.

Thanks Tracyk, we do have a light on in the hall, so he can see whats around when he wakes up, and he's gone off his milk altogether since it's been hot. Funnily enough he actually slept through last nite, so I must rack my brains and think if we done anything different (or if its just pot luck). He still likes to have a nap in the day, maybe I should cut this out, so he is more tired at night. Maybe it's something he'll just grow out of!

No help at all just sympathy as my DS [2.9yrs] has just started doing this. Comes into our room begging to sleep in mummy and daddys bed. Prior to this he always wanted to be in his own room. Talking to a few parents at toddlers yesterday and it is quite common at this age.

meant to add about the naps we cut ours out and it has made no difference at all..some nights he just sneaks in without speaking as he knows if we wake he is back in his own bed..although other nights he wants to talk...arghhh its 3am...pmsl

Although will say I also have a 7mth old so dont know if she has something to do with his waking.

Its very important to always say no to your children getting into bed with you. A girl who i was friends with at school lost her 8 month old daughter at the weekend. they are waiting for post mortem results to come back, but it is thought that either herself or her 2 yr old rolled on the baby during the night (as they were sharing a bed). its awful that these things happen but hopefully by spreading the msg it will prevent it happening to other people's children. maybe good can come from such horrific events.