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Tried CC now trying part co-sleeping - any other co-sleepers out there?

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Jinty123 · 04/03/2004 14:20

Well as you know the CC didn't really work for us. but just after I posted my last topic we tried another bedtime routine which involves: Bathing at 6.30, then cream, nappy and pj's then on her doughnut in her room with a soft nightlight on and cuddle with teddy while I tell her a bedtime story or 2 and she has her bottle. Then off to bed and for about a week now she's been lights out by 7.15pm without a single moan or crying session - bliss!! (touch wood).

Then when she wakes in the middle of the night we take her into the big bed until morning. So far we're not doing to badly although she's starting with another cold so things could be a bit up and down for a few days.

At least we are all getting waaaaay more sleep than before - so who's complaining, not me!!

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oliveoil · 04/03/2004 14:31

How old is she? SOrry not read other thread. We used to have dd in our bed until she was about 12 months, not all night but like your describtion, and now she sleeps in her cot all night. In fact, refuses to come into our bed and screeches. Pain at 6am when you want another hour. She is now 16 months.

hercules · 04/03/2004 14:32

We are cosleepers. Didnt plan it that way with ds, we bought a cot and put him in there for the first few days unitl he got a cold. Our hv said put him in the bed with you as easier to feed and we never looked back. I've never had to get out of bed during the night and just bought a super king size bed. When he was older he went nto his own room no problems.
We have a moses basket where dd sleeps daytime and early evening and then she joins us on the bed at night.
It works well for us.

M2T · 04/03/2004 14:37

Jinty123 - We are exactly the same. Ds, who will be 3 in June, goes to his own bed at 8pm. And is usually in beside me by 1am. I really enjoy it and it means we all get a nights sleep! We tried controlled crying for a few nights, but we both have to get up at 6am for work so just found it unbearable!!
Dunno whats going to happen when baby no2 arrives in August though.

hoxtonchick · 04/03/2004 14:38

Sounds just like what we do Jinty123, ds goes to bed in his cot very happily & then when he wakes up in the night comes in with us & generally goes straight back off to sleep. Sometimes he sleeps all night in his cot, but mostly not (& if he does tends to wake up earlier in the morning). And I really like cuddling him at night, dp has stopped moaning about it so we're all happy. He's 25 months btw.

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Jinty123 · 04/03/2004 14:51

My daughter is now 10 months and has never been a 'good' sleeper (whatever that's supposed to mean anyway). I've read a number of articles from doctors who say they can't stand it when people say a baby is a 'good' or a 'bad' sleeper - because babies who wake up during the night are quite normal actually and even after they hit the 6 month mark and are on solids. A number of doctors believe that even after this age it is quite normal and fine for a baby to wake several times during the night, whether for a feed or just a human touch.

I find that my dd goes to sleep quite easily at about 7.15pm in her own cot and comes into the big bed anytime from 12pm - 2am. It hasn't made much difference to the time she wakes up in the morning or anything, but at least we don't have to spend an hour or more listening to her cry her eyes out at 1am in the morning when we've got work the next day!!

And of course another upside is the fact that I get to watch my gorgeous angel sleeping - so precious (especially as I spend at least 10 hours a day apart from her). So I cherish this time even if I don't get as much sleep as I would like (12 hours straight would be nice )

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miggy · 04/03/2004 14:56

Same here but dare I admit dd is 5. Goes to bed 8pm, gets in with us between 11 and 2, most nights we dont even realise even though she has to climb over dh to get in the middle. Am planning crackdown next school holidays. Ds1 was in till he was 4 and DS2 till 6 so there is hope!

oliveoil · 04/03/2004 14:56

Jinty this is exactly what I was like! She's only 10 months old, stop worrying. I sent myself doolally (and was too chicken to cc, think its mean) thinking I was doing everything wrong.

See my last post 'she now sleeps all night in her cot', just because your dd goes in your bed now, doesn't mean she always will.

Agree on the snuggling up as well, gorgeous isn't it.

hercules · 04/03/2004 15:26

That's very true jinty. DH and I worked full time and so it was nice to cosleep especially if dh didnt gt home until ds was already in bed.

M2T · 04/03/2004 15:30

I love co-sleeping and have been known to get very pi$$ed off with people telling me that it must be "awful" and "you just GOT to stop that". WHY???????? Nothing nicer than snuggling in with ds. I see little enough of him with being out of the house 11 hours a day, so I treat all my time as precious.

oliveoil · 04/03/2004 15:45

When I started back at work, I used to go to bed at night and take dd from her cot, peacefully sleeping, and squish her next to me as I had missed her all day. Have cut my hours since but still miss that nuzzling, might start thread on how to co-sleep, that would set things off

hercules · 04/03/2004 15:48

Oh go on Oliveoil.
I'll join in too if you like, it's been a while since we had a hot topic on mumsnet.

hercules · 04/03/2004 15:49

BTW I darent start it.

M2T · 04/03/2004 15:49

lol OO - Why do you think people seem SOOOO dead against it? I think 90% of the worlds countries promote it, but in the UK it's a big taboo!

hercules · 04/03/2004 15:50

Why is it such a taboo???

M2T · 04/03/2004 15:53

I don't know hercules! Just going by this obsession with having your child sleeping all night in his/her own bedroom by 6mths old. There have been some healthy debates on MN about it and some of my friends are dead against co-sleeping too. It's what you feel you need to do rather than what's right or wrong. But some just don't see it like that.

oliveoil · 04/03/2004 15:53

Each to their own I think, some people read too many books IMO (thin ice, olive, thin ice). I am lucky in that most of my friends are 'go with the flow' type mums and that I think has eventually rubbed off on me. One friend said that if at every problem you say 'will they still be doing it in 10 years time?' and you can answer no, then don't worry.

hercules · 04/03/2004 15:56

Are you saying OO that bringing your child up by a book is not the best way?

We always got the he'll be doing it when he's 18 crap and he's now 8 and not doing any of the things that that was said about.

miggy · 04/03/2004 16:00

I once read a dog training book and it said that if you let your dog sleep in the bedroom at night, you were giving him 8hrs of your company for no effort. I sort of extrapolate that to my children. (dog not in bed by the way-no room )

hercules · 04/03/2004 16:01

lol miggy

miggy · 04/03/2004 16:01

Hercules-what about bringing chilgren up by dog training books- is that ok

hercules · 04/03/2004 16:02

It would make potty training v interesting and imagine having a child who walked to heel!

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Jinty123 · 05/03/2004 13:09

Miggy, amazing that you say that!! In the book Good Nights by Dr Jay Gordon which is all about co-sleeping and the tips on how to, etc. he says that a national survey was done in the US where 60% of the people admitted to letting their dogs/cats sleep on their bed most nights - he said 'pity they can't do the same with their own children'!!!

I looooove snuggling with my dd at night and have just persuaded my dh to allow me to bring the cot into our room and take the one side off - then we will push it up against our bed - that way old lazy bones (me) won't have to get out of bed in the middle of the night when she wakes up

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lydialemon · 05/03/2004 13:21

Mine all slept like this too. DSs 'grew out' of it, although at 6 and 3.5 they still occasionally come in first thing in the morning. However thats tailing off as DS1 can now turn the TV AND the digital box on, and thats more fun than watching us ignore them.

DD is 4 mths and after all this time of sleeping through, she has now started waking at 2 ish, so she comes in with us. DH has to work and I have to get the other two up for school, so I haven't the energy or the inclination to mess around!

Blackduck · 05/03/2004 13:27

Ds goes to sleep in his cot and most nights stays there, but if he wakes and starts I go and get him, he'll then go back to sleep until the normal time....Sometimes what with him, dp and the cat it gets mighty crowded.....(dog, is, I'm afraid, banished)
I don't have a problem co-sleeping, I just find I don't get as good a nights sleep, becuase I am aware ds is with us, and am afraid dp is going to smother him!

RushingAround · 05/03/2004 13:29

Co-sleepers and love it! Ds aged 6 goes to bed in his own bed, but always runs thru to us at night. Dd aged 3 wakes up in the night and we go and collect her...
It's great snuggling up to them. Goodness knows what the psychologists would say about it, but it works for us. And I know it'll have to stop somewhere - after all, I used to do the same as a kid, and eventually grew out of it, so I just enjoy it for all it's worth now.

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