I'm really really struggling with my 5 months sleep

[ElBombero]

It's just getting so hard, to the point I'm getting upset and teary now, I'm worrying about nights and all the lack of sleep is seriously affecting my 3yo and the time /patience /effort I can put into time with her.

My DS 19 weeks has never been great at sleeping but I he has had the odd week of doing 4-5 hours at night, and still does the odd one every so often.

Days are rubbish, he wakes up about 8am feeds and is awake till about 10 when he will have 30 mins max. This is generally always in my arms or in my bed. He's happy then till about dinner. He will then BF/fall asleep on me/ be carefully put down immediately wake scream, then the cycle starts again. The only way he will sleep is in my arms.

Nights are pretty much the sane. Don't put him down till 10, if I did I'd just spend all night in nursery.. Dread 10pm as I know it could be hours before I get to bed. I feed, I put in cot, he wakes if not immediately then within 5 mins. Last night was 02.30 before I slept, actually had a little cry knowing I had to be up at 6am with toddler. Not that 2.30am was him settled for night he was up at 4 and 6.

I tried everything to get him down, dummies, formula, swaddling, comfort you. He only wants me and I'm running out of steam.

Please please is there anyone that can help???

And just to add its a good job our babies are ubberly gorgeous and we love them to bits because otherwise they'd be in the bin.

Anyone??

Hi, ElBombero.

No words of wisdom, but just to let you know, you're not alone.
I have a 5 month old DD, yesterday she went to sleep (rocked after a bfeed) at 7.30, she was then awake at 9.30, 11, 12.30, 3, 5 and 6 up for the day.
The other night she was awake from 9.30 to 1am, then at 2, 4 and 6 :(
She has been sleeping his badly since 14 weeks old, so 8 weeks now and I'm at the end of my tether too.

Last night every time she woke, she cried and I had to breastfeed her and then rock her to sleep. This is despite cosleeping.

It will get better. Right??

I hope so, today's been awful headache all day, we've had to stay in a it's my DD nursery day, so my only chance to do housework and he's literally had about 60 minutes from getting up at 8am. Put him down cry, get 10 mins rest whilst I switch from playmat, jumperoo, baby tv. Didn't get dressed till 4.

It will get better, it will, it has too!!!

I know DD was quite bad at night, weaned at 6 months n she slept!!! So fingers crossed xx

You are not alone. My almost 6 month old wakes every two hours at night. I'm bloody knackered. Hoping weaning will help (clutching at straws).

I started a similar thread (help with 25 week old's sleep) and also didn't get a massive amount of feedback- maybe it just is like this. My ds has started on rice etv but it's hit or miss whether he sleeps for longer at night.

I am stuckin the nursery from 6-11 thethen I fall asleep- give up and co sleep in our room for the rest of the night. Last night was terrible and I'm currently stood like a zombie pushing the pram in the front room because I'm too tired to do anything else!

So no help- just support- this too will pass.

I started a similar thread (help with 25 week old's sleep) and also didn't get a massive amount of feedback- maybe it just is like this. My ds has started on rice etv but it's hit or miss whether he sleeps for longer at night.

I am stuckin the nursery from 6-11 thethen I fall asleep- give up and co sleep in our room for the rest of the night. Last night was terrible and I'm currently stood like a zombie pushing the pram in the front room because I'm too tired to do anything else!

So no help- just support- this too will pass.

ElBombero, again, sorry I can't offer much advice... just wanted to offer a as I knwo how awful it is to struggle with sleep deprivation...I've also done the middle-of-the-night crying and I don't even have the stress of a toddler like you!!!
Just to ask, is it possible for you to co-sleep for a while as long as it takes for you to feel a bit human again as this might just give you a bit of a break from the utter misery? I know people are always worried about rods for backs (I fall into this category too, or at least I did until I got desperate) but tbh babies and toddlers can, as far as I can tell from this board, develop all kinds of sleeping problems no matter WHAT you do right or wrong... my bff refused EVER to have her baby in bed with her as she was adamant she wouldn't create a rod for her own back... he's now been sleeping in her bed every single night since he was 5 (he's now 7...) Though my mum is always happy to share tales of people who have never left their parents' bed after forming bad habits...
Anyway just to say I was on the edge until I started hauling DD into bed with my halfway thru the night, I know it's not really a 'solution' but it has bought me back a bit of sanity, I have to work and I just couldn't go on feeling so desperate and exhausted.
Sorry I can't be any more helpful!! xxx

My 19 wk old the same, every 45 mins last night. Come join us on the 4 month sleep regression thread!

I second co-sleeping. Means I can remain horizontal all night so get some rest. DD2 at least goes back to sleep if fed. We are into week bloody 9 of 4 month sleep regression. Groan.

Can you think cake? I don't really get this regression thing. What's it's all about?

Link even? Can't even type!!

On phone so no clicky linky sorry!

Have a look in the sleep topics, the dreaded 4 month sleep regression support thread, should be near the top somewhere.

Well documented phenomenon.... 4-ish mth olds sleep patterns change around this time which they can find difficult to adapt to (and they think the world is far too exciting and their little brains are figuring out so much new stuff they can't switch off.... or something!) Dr Google will provide details if you want them.

You are not alone even though the millionth waking at 4am feels like it! Come & join us...

hi elbombero, I had a very similar issue at about 5 months with my DS who is now almost 8 months. he would not sleep anywhere. but on me for naps and putting to bed at night was a nightmare! I just persisted with settling him in my arms and then lying him down, he would wake almost immediately or at least within 5 mins, and repeat. he eventually would sleep in his cot for a couple of hours at a time, but went a long time of being brought into our bed in the early hours to co-sleep. it was frustrating for a while and touring! but I found it was breaking the habit for my DS of him sleeping on me and getting used to sleeping in the cot. now he still wakes a couple of times a night, once for feed and others to be settled but he stays in his cot and naps in there just fine. good luck!