awake for hours at night

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Andcake · 13/01/2014 10:07

I don't know where to start but ive had 2.5 hours sleep and am now at work struggling.

16 mo ds has always been a rubbish sleeper - we co-sleep from 6 months to one then had a few weeks success with gradual retreat then after an illness he never got back on track. We co-slept because of a similar issue basically he woke every hour and would take alot of time getting back to sleep.
Recently we have had huge night wakings.
Anyway Ds recently will settle about 7.30 then wake anytime between 12-3 and just not go back to sleep whatever we try for over 3 hours.
last night I had problems getting to sleep then he woke at 12.30 and didn't go back to sleep until 4. i had to get up for work at 7!

DP tried for a few hours but I couldn't sleep as it is only when im not with him he cries . he hates the cot with a passion. He hasn't fed at night since 6 months. DP points out I am one of the worst sleepers he has ever met anyway.

Getting him back to sleep even when he can self settle has always been the issue. and I am not keen on cio but i think i might have to and then Im just going to feel like a failure. we had huge bf issues and I exclusively pumped for 6 months and just feel crap as though i can't do anything right.
But I'm not sure cio is a solution as he can and will self settle and go to sleep. CIO just makes me think of the nspcc ads 'no one came when they cried'

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slightlyconfused85 · 13/01/2014 17:26

Is he getting teeth? My daughter who usually sleeps quite well turned into a horror aout 8 weeks ago and did exactly this. Turns out she was cutting her canines and found it really hard going. We found the calprofen plus teething gel better than calpol. The only way we could get her back to sleep was medicine as above, a relax in our bed and when calm put her back. she sometimes cried for a while bit this was quicker than interfering and trying to help her. Because she was a self settler this just stimulated her so really she was better with medicine, cuddle, water and a few tears. She would be asleep again within an hour instead of three

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Andcake · 13/01/2014 17:55

I think it could be teeth - also he seems to be trying more with 'words' so it could be a milestone. Haven't tried teething gel at night only cal pol. Dreading tonight to be fair. We have offered water a few times. And his teething toy.
I'm do shattered. Had a horrid day and just got caught in a hail storm
Will be going to bed v early to try and get sleep but I really miss spending time with dp.
Did your dd get back on track? Do you know if 16 mo is to young for molars he got his v first teeth v early.

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slightlyconfused85 · 13/01/2014 19:12

It is grim I truly feel your pain. As soon as the teeth came through she slept through again so no lasting damage but to be honest I was so exhausted I let her cry a few times. Not for hours but for 15 mins or so. she was a very quick teether and this was at 13 months getting her canines already had her molars, unless you mean the very last ones? I've heard they can be pretty awful

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Andcake · 14/01/2014 20:37

Thanks. Last night I tried to let him cry some. A gentle retreat approach so I sat next to the bed. He cried a lot - I would try and calm him but he wouldn't settle if I took my hand off him ( I was trying to get him to settle again with out me) basically after 2.5 hours so at 10 o'clock I gave in and cuddled him to sleep.
But at least when he woke at night it was a bit later and bless him I think he was so tired he went back to sleep with a quick cuddle.

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