Need some perspective please.

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I have a 14 month ds and a 5 yr old dd. Dd slept very well from 3 months ish. I did some controlled crying as exh had three children from previous wife and told me that was how to do it . Anyway, I was lucky that she responded very well to routine and she fell into one.

Re-married, had ds. Dh refused to consider cc and having read more this time around, I have to say I'm not keen either. Ds won't sleep on his own. I have never managed to get him down without bf him to sleep. We have ended up co sleeping out of desperation as no one was getting any sleep.

I've reached my breaking point. I'm so tired. My dh is tired. Ds is too big there is no room in the bed and I just don't know what to do. Dh and I are sniping at each other. I feel annoyed because he looks to me for answers and I don't have any. I don't want to bf any more, ds chews and makes me sore and he now pinches me too.

Can anyone make any suggestions? Even reassurance that this is more common than I think would be good.

I'm sorry about your situation. if it is any help I have heard many friends tell me similar stories (my dd never co slept, but was a terrible sleeper from day dot and still is pretty much at 3) and to be quite honest there is no easy way to do this but just try to make sleeping in his own cot as appealing and exciting as you can.

Give him a few days to realise that he is going back to his cot. Perhaps get him playing in there during the day, does he nap? If so does he still nap in his cot? Anyway, make it all seem like a really exciting prospect....then bite the bullet and understand that you are probably going to have a few sleepless nights of going in when he wakes up and needs a bit of comforting then leave him and repeat the same thing over until he finally realises that he won't be sleeping in mummy and daddy's bed again. It's going to be hard but he'll get it in the end.

I wish you all the luck!

Thanks, I know you're probably right but it's just doing it. There is no awake but sleepy, if I even put him near the cot he screams and cries so hard. Feel so useless.