17 mths and still wakes twice. Agh!

[melonribena]

My 17 mth old ds has always been a rubbish sleeper, an undiagnosed cmp allergy and tongue/lip tie created feeding to sleep issues and co sleeping that I never intended!

Fast forward to now, ds self settles for nap time and bedtime happily in his cot with a dummy. He has a bf before bed but goes into his cot fully awake and self settles fine.

This is all great! Unfortunately he wakes approximately 2 hours after going to sleep and is inconsolable until I pick him up, snuggle and bf him back to sleep. Sometimes he will settle briefly back in his cot but usually will only go back to sleep lying next to me in bed.

I then have to go to bed next to him or he'll wake up screaming and reaching out for me. He then also wakes about 3 for a feed before waking up at 7 for his morning feed.

This means a shorter evening for me, which is not good and very few evenings out because he wakes up about 10 inconsolably. I also sleep awfully with his two wakings and constant fear of rolling on him.

I want to break his bad habits, get him sleeping all night in his cot and not needing 2 night feeds (I don't mind continuing the bedtime/breakfast feeds)

Any advice would be gratefully received. Should I work on him sleeping in his cot all night before dropping the feeds? I'm not prepared for CIO and struggle with cc.

Thanks,
Mel

Bumping in hope! I thought I was a lost cause!!!!

bumping for you!

I expect someone will recommend the no cry sleep solution, I haven't tried it myself but seen it recommended on here for reducing feed to sleep/weaning off night feeds and getting them to sleep on their own.

good luck, hope someone more useful is along soon.

I'd second no cry sleep solution although I've not had to use it, but its oft recommended. I'd also look into safe bed sharing (ISIS website is good starting point, or read 3 in a bed) to set your mind a rest so you can sleep more easily too. I've bed shared from birth, and whilst I was never worried as I knew right positioning etc, I'm even less worried now he's bigger as he'd soon shift or jab me if he needed. Very different to when they've limited mobility.

Another thought, that pattern is not dissimilar to one my baby had not long since. He was getting a bit chilly I think, as our radiators needed bleeding, and of course the warmth of lying next to me was appealing. And whilst there he'd have a feed. Now its warmer he stays asleep (although will wake up when the heating comes on if I don't turn the radiator down last thing). Could it be something like that?

Thank you! Some good ideas!