Nearly at my wits end with one year old

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A flavour of a typical night:

10:30 go to bed
11:00 Dr screams until 12:30 (will quieten to feed but big eyes and alert)
Followed by half hourly or hourly waking until up for the day at 5:30

Sometimes her wakings are so close I don't even go to sleep in between, and she can cry for hours.

I've been much better with her on routine than with my elder ones, she has a bath, cuddle and bed and is popped in the cot awake when most nights she goes to sleep quickly. Rome is a good temp, dark, quiet....everything I can think of. She won't co-sleep as screams like a banshee if near and not feeding, the only hope of settling is in a, quiet cot. It's a shame as I loved co-sleeping.

I'm truely at my wits end and going mad, I work quite long hours an have four children (no bother with the others sleeping beyond laying in too long)

She has very mild hemiplegia and will only sleep on her front, but on her front she can't roll or get up so I think the inability to change position adds to the issue. She's generally massively clingy, the model baby until put down. I think she wants to be mobile so wants us to move her to explore, she's quite switched on for her age compared to my others.

I just don't know what to do, I tried it all, even CIO for a week, no-one in the house slept. I love her to pieces but can barely function. Has anybody had similar an worked through?

I don't remember it ever being quite that bad, but god, I remember how bad it was! Do you put her down early? Maybe try putting her to sleep at the same time as you go to bed? Sorry if I'm being a bit simplistic but maybe she'd prefer less of a routine??! Hope it gets better.

She's made a routine of her own really, at about 7.30 she becomes a different baby. She sobs next to the cot. Seriously. Also I sometimes go t bed with her just to try and get a few hours in one go as she normally gets to 11pm with one wake. Also I think if she stayed up the others would want to stay up with her and true madness would descend....

She snores and snuffles like a small pig so it's hard to sleep around her even if she's asleep.

I'm ranting, but after a year I'm REALLY starting to crack up a bit, especially as I went back to work. My DS wasn't a great sleeper, so I learned a few tricks but nothing has worked for DD.

Oh, bless her! Would it be possible to let her snooze on you while you watch tv of an evening? It's my only real tip, I'm afraid: I just found that letting mine snooze on me of an evening (don't fall asleep yourself, mind) then putting them down when I went to bed meant they slept through much better. You could also try putting a calpol nightlight vaporiser plug in thingy in her bedroom? If she's snoring/snuffly she might have a bit of congestion going on and that always helped mine through colds and stuff. The lavender in it probably wouldn't hurt in any event.

thanks, she doesn't snooze on me, actually pops off ok alone just wakes A LOT after. If I'm near she will just breastfeed until I bleed (seriously)

This sounds very simple but worth a try- warm bananas & warm milk before bed

I'll give anything a shot!

I was also going to suggest she might be waking up because of hunger, can you give her something to fill her up before she goes to bed? our DD who is 1yr old has her tea at about 17.30(tonight was a piece of fish with some carrots and peas followed by a yoghurt) and then 8oz of milk at 19:00 then bed at 19.30 - she sleeps right through.

She's a fantastic eater, despite being usually small, she has porridge at bedtime and generally eats tons. More than her 3 yr old brother.

I have tried controlled crying, I don't rush to get her. If left she goes to a pattern of about 20min crying, 20 min sleep throughout the night, though can cry much much longer. I always have popped her in the cot awake, so she should self-soothe. in Theory anyway. A few times a night it's a brief cry and I leave her.

I feel like I'm always at the GP with her, she's had a lot of scary temps beyond what the others had and had a stiff/ locked arm when tiny (mild hemiplegia)

Sometimes I think it sounds like pain, but she is also a lovely wilful madam and gets very worked up with a high scream easily (for example if placed on the floor she'll go purple, tears and snot everywhere, screaming like you've pulled a limb off). It's hard to call.

Shush-pat sends her mad, she claws at your hands and writhes. I try a brief cuddle/ kiss then down if not just talking, bt more often than not end up bf to get through the state she's in.

Could she have reflux? Sounds like a friends ds who has it bad when he lies down at night. Smell her breath to check for acidity

My ds had reflux, although she threw up a lot she was always a happy chucker, my gut feeling is she doesn't have reflux.

If she snores a lot it could be enlarged tonsils, could you have her checked out? My dsis's friends went through 2 years of not sleeping, the day after their DS had his tonsils out he was sleeping perfectly.