How do i get a 9 week old to go to sleep on his own in a cot?

[Mandymoo]

ATM he goes to sleep whilst feeding. Is 9 weeks too young to attempt controlled crying? Is it too soon to expect him to get himself to sleep?

yes too young. calm down. dd went to sleep feeding for ages.

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Try and keep him awake, so that he goes down sleepy but not dead asleep. As soon as he wakes he's going to complain as it's a different environment he remembers to before he fell asleep.
If he's aware of his environment before falling asleep, he might complain for a minute or two but should soon fall asleep. Key is to give the chance to 'self-soothe' before rushing in to him.
If he doesn't have a dummy, I would introduce a comfort object - blankie, small soft toy - and lay it near him / under his head when you lay him down. If using a blankie, as I do, place it on your shoulder while feeding so that he associates the feel of the fabric with you and your smell.

Way too young for controlled crying.

Don't worry about him going to sleep feeding; dd fed herself to sleep for around 2 years and I've never had any problems with her getting herself to sleep - she'd been doing it when she woke in the night for ages by the time she dropped her bedtime feed.

Just go with the flow - do what feels right to you.

Mandymoo, at 9 weeks he is a tiny baby still. Let him go to sleep whilst feeding. i know it very tiring but that's just how they are. If you try to 'force' something at a very young age, it generally backfires!

Controlled crying is for babies over 1 imo (and fro certain certain reasons only too)

ooh yes too young

dd3 feeds to sleep (then sleeps in her cot)

i don't like cc anyway but....

will he settle inmoses basket? can u put that in teh cot at night?
try tying a jumper/t shirt of yours oiut of reach in the cot so he can smell u, agree with the comfort object, never too early if u ask me.

And def ut him in when he is more awake than asleep.

tbh,m at 90 weeks, i just attched ds2 and went back to sleep, we were both happier that way.

They don't recommend CC before 6 months, but I'm a supporter. It worked brilliantly for me at that age and DD certainly non the worse for it and now a brilliant sleeper.

I'm quite happy for him to fall alseep whilst feeding - just wondered if i was making a rod for my own back!

Basically he feeds at 7pm then sleeps til 12am (in his cot) then comes into our bed where 9 times out of 10 he stays til morning as we both normally fall asleep.

I shall continue with that for now then!

Thanks guys

god thats not bad

stop worrying!

I know what you mean about worrying in case you 'find yourself' with a baby who has never 'learnt' to settle themselves...it's those damn baby programmes (Baby Whisperer etc etc!!)
Think the suggestions of putting him down when sleepy but not asleep, using something soft for him to snuggle against etc sound good
If he's sleeping for that long a chunk of time he is most likely doing some self-settling anyway when he starts to wake in the night (like we all do, we just roll over/change position and drift back...)

doesn't sound like you are making a rod at all..also no need to go straight from feeding to sleep to cc...can try rocking/cuddling to sleep, singing to sleep, patting and shushing etc etc...all can be just as effective and less noisy!

No rods in this house - DS fed to sleep until he was about 13 months, then I did a little bit of CC type thing - not much crying, just settling him without a feed, never looked back, he is a great sleeper, 12-13 hrs a night and still naps most afternoons (he's 2.4).

Way too young to be worrying about it imo!