Advise needed

[JessRiley96]

Hiya, i'm 17 years old and a first time mum to my 1 month old son, he's my whole world.. I'm looking for a little advise, The problem I'm experiencing is he doesn't tend to like sleeping at night, he's a nightmare to get to sleep. During the day he's perfect, we both wake up around 9, I bath and dress him then we do day to day activities (go into town, clean up, cook ect) he has a bottle every 3 hours and naps between. Occasionally he will stay awake abit but rarely. When it comes to bedtime he won't sleep, I give him his bedtime bottle cuddle him abit then put him into his Moses basket to sleep but then he suddenly has a whole lot if energy and will be awake for hours. I am exhausted and in desperate need of some advise on changing his body clock so he'll sleep. I'm exhausted I try sleep whilst he does, but I've a house to keep running so i don't have time. I don't know if its silly asking for this advice but I really need some advise/guidance. Thank you in advance xx

Hi Jess, congratulations on your new baby! It sounds like he has his days and nights mixed up, this is totally normal at his age but absolutely exhausting for you, I remember how tough it is and really feel for you. That's great that you get out and about as being in daylight will help get his body clock sorted so get outside as much as you can. Does he have all his naps in lit rooms? I made sure ds slept in the communal rooms in the light and didn't try to keep things too quiet, then at night time it was all about keeping things really dark, quiet and low key. They gradually figure out the difference and as he gets older his body clock will mature, I saw a big difference at 6wks. I'm sure other mum's on here will have more advice but I'm afraid there is only so much you can do and really it just takes time for babies to adjust to night and day. Do you have family/friends who can help out with the housework? I just lived in chaos and slept when he slept as you really have to prioritise sleeping and do the bare minimum around the house. It will get better so hang on in there.

Hi jess, I agree with everything littlebag said. You sound like you're doing a great job, another thing that I did that seemed to work was to let mine sleep in their pram throughout the day and only use the cot/moses basket for night time sleeping. It (eventually) makes them realise that cot means proper sleep and pram means naptime. I did the same with the noise thing too, not worrying so much about noise through the day but quiet time at night. Don't worry about housework at the moment, keeping yourself and baby happy is the priority just now. Congratulations!