Baby that won't be held, comforted or fed when night waking?

[IdaClair]

Older baby at 14mo.

Has a two-three times a night waking habit, which is heaven compared to what it used to be so I'm not complaining as I usually get at least 4 hours of sleep at least. But the only way to get her to go back to sleep is to leave her on her own. If you cuddle, feed, hold, rock her she will fight you furiously. She's gone from cuddly BF baby to angry, whack you in the face if you insist she stays on your knee baby who will only go back to sleep if you not only give her bottle milk but leave her with the bottle so she can't see you/hear you. I've even had to move her into another room.

I know I can't leave her with a bottle of milk all alone in the night, every night, it's awful. It's been a gradual change over the last 3 months but I've just realised how marked the change is from one to the other.

What am I doing wrong?

Your doing nothing wrong .

Tbh its great that she doesn't need comforting etc & their is nothing wrong with leaving her all night if that's what she wants

She must be a very strong & Confident little girl

Also you could always get one of those video baby monitors to put your mind at rest so you can keep an eye on her

She does want the milk, though, I assume that's why she's waking, so I end up just handing it to her in a bottle, because she won't be picked up, just squirm and hit and fling herself off me. I've tried sitting with her while she drinks it but if I am there she wakes up and wants to play. If I leave her with it she'll go back off to sleep. But it feels very wrong to just leave her with milk in the night, especially when up to a couple of months ago she would snuggle up for a snoozy BF when she woke and I'd pop her back in her cot when she'd nodded off.