What should I do (9.5 month old sleep)

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DD is a terrible sleeper. I have done much to make the situation worse though. She feeds (BF) to sleep usually at bedtime, although sometimes I rock her to sleep or sometimes she will lie in her cot and drop off whilst I pat her bottom. She will then wake anything from 45 mins (usually) to a couple of hours later and I will tend to feed her to sleep again. I can usually transfer her to her cot again. However once it gets past about 10 it becomes virtually impossible to transfer her to her cot theough feeding, rocking etc, and by about midnight I tend togive up and bring her in with us where she drops off straight away. I think she feeds once in the night whilst she is lying next to me. Thishas been going on for many weeks now.

This does allow me to sleep, but I want my bed back and I know DH does as well. Also we are planning on going away for 2 nights in January and leaving the DC with my parents. This is now scarily close. I guess if she is still this way we will have to take her with us, but to be honest we are desperate for a break and some quality time just the two of us. I am ready to try anything but I just don't know what. She will take formula reasonably happily. I would like to stop breastfeeding at 1 year, and don't mind if it is sooner if it will help her to sleep.

SuPpose I am just after advice as to what works. The only thing I will not do is CIO, and I am not keen on CC either really, althpugh I might try it if it seems the only option. D1 was also breastfed but by this age ws definitely sleeping though the night, reliably, in his cot. I am a bit down about it all now!

Don't think stopping bfing is going to be the magic answer sorry, all it will do is remove the one thing that seems to get her to sleep.

9 months is a classic sleep regression, so she may just improve herself soon, but if you want some help try the no cry sleep solution.

Thanks for your answer, Jilted. I think you are right re the bfing. At least I know she will take a bottle if need be, that is probably enough for now.
Hadn't realised 9 months was another sleep regression. Should have known! Although shehas been crap since she was about three months (back when I used to worry about her sleeping though the night...happy days).
I do have the NCSS book but it seems v long winded. Dd it work for you?

I found the NCSS helped a lot. DS was a complete nightmare and we could see no end to it. He did have tt and upper lip tie, there were also other medical issues affecting his sleep. So while it wasn't a quick fix, it did help enormously.

There's a bit on the 9 month sleep regression here

agree with the above, but wonder if you should look at teaching your daughter to self-settle in other ways other than breastfeeding? You say that she sometimes goes off if you pat her bottom? I would stick to this technique, and try and settle her to sleep every time this way. Gradually, you may start to be able to put her down, pat her a couple of times and then leave her to settle herself. If she can self-settle then she may stand a chance of sleeping for more of the night without your help. She may still need one night feed though.

Thanks Jilted. I have had a good look at NCSS and will be tryong it as soon as DD has gotten over her cold (there is always sonething!).Encouraging to hear that you hadsome success.
Howabout, you are right about trying to promote other ways of getting her to sleep. Certainly better nights tend to follow when I haven't fed her to sleep.
Also I think she may be different when I am not around...

Can't do links at the mo but on the settling without bfing front, try googling askdrsears 12 alternatives for the all night nurser. You are probably right to wait until she is well thought