21 month amazing sleeper is now a nightmare!

[killpeppa]

He has always been a great sleeper. He no longer has naps as he cut them out himself. He has all his teeth but the past 2 weeks his amazing sleeping has gone out the bleeding window.

He is in a bed as he was a climber and was escaping his cot. He settled well into it, went to bed no fuss & straight to sleep, but recently being put to bed is a screaming match, hysterical tears & ends up me sitting at the end of his bed until he drifts off, THEN he wakes at around midnight and comes into my room. He wont re settle.and I end up co-sleeping to get sleep myself.

please please please help?!!

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He maybe now expects to get cuddles and into your bed when he wakes so will keep waking for the comfort. It might be difficult to unlearn this but the only way to solve it is to stop bringing him into your room. Try and settle him without removing him from his cot. Stay with him until he falls back to sleep.

We had a similar thing with our middle child and, I'm sorry to tell you, went through hell for a few months whilst we were having a loft conversion when I was heavily pregnant.

He would get out of bed over and over again before falling asleep and then would wake numerous times in the night and wander into our room.

I have no great solutions I'm afraid but our HV told us to remain calm and consistent as DS was trying to test us and test us to the limit he bloody well did

In the end DS got chicken pox and was really poorly and when he got better he started sleeping through again. Strange as to why but remembering 'this too shall pass' eventually rang true.

I think that you need to decide what you're happy to do and stick to it. You don't sound like you mind sitting on his bed while he falls asleep but if you do don't do it anymore. Let him scream and just keep returning him to bed without any eye contact or interaction. In the middle of the night it's more rapid return until he eventually gets the message.

I really feel for you though OP as it was so exhausting and stressful af the time. Hope he settles down to sleeping better soon for you

henD I dont mind, but Id rather not iykwim. I started tonight sitting on the floor so he had no contact with me and will try to withdraw.
I would let him scream but I worry about him waking Ds2 as im now a single mum, so two screaming babies is more of a challenge than before.
He is NOT coming in tonight, he will be escorted back to bed.

so where is the night owls thread at

Good luck killpeppa and stay strong as they push you at your weakest.

Will check in on the next night feed/in the morning to see how you get on.

How was your night?