Hi,
I'd really be grateful for some advice.
I have 3 year old boy / girl twins who sleep in separate rooms. Both sleep quite well throughout the night, albeit with the dreaded dummies!
My ex husband left last Christmas. Things have been very amicable and the twins stay at his every Friday night.
He said this week our daughter willing gave up her dummy and slept thought the night (but not our son) and we both suitably showered her with praise. We've often said the dummy fairy is coming but I'm hoping to avoid a cold turkey approach as I fear the fall out will be a huge setback.
I tried her without her dummy last night but after an hour of delay tactics she started getting fraught and exhausted so I have in.
The trouble is that my son feels in no way ready to give his up (he's a far more anxious child) so I don't want to pressure my daughter too much as I'm not asking the same of her brother.
Also my ex and I have both started new relationships and 6 months in, are both thinking about introducing everyone. I guess I don't want to take away a comforter (dummy) that may provide just a small relief (to them and me!) at such an emotionally charged time.
Perhaps I'm jut looking for an excuse but I don't want the twins to feel any upset and they have been through (and coped amazingly with) so much already.
Some sane and realistic advice very welcome. Thanks a million in advance.
JG