Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Sleep

Join our Sleep forum for tips on creating a sleep routine for your baby or toddler. Need more advice on your childs development? Sign up to our Ages and Stages newsletter here.

Please can you offer any advice regarding ds not sleeping?

6 replies

Dollslikeyouandme · 13/11/2013 20:26

My apologies, I have already posted this in Behaviour/Development & Children's Health before I found this topic.

I'm not sure if this belongs in here but I have posted in behaviour and development also. Really need some advice though.

Ds is 5 years old. He has always slept very well, even when he was a baby only waking up for a feed and cuddle and settling straight back to sleep. He slept well through the toddler years, he'd have a nap and still sleep for 12 hours, and has always had the same routine, milk, bath, story then bed. He's always gone to bed early and got up late.

He's 5 now, and recently, probably the past 6 months to a year, but slowly getting increasingly worse, he doesn't seem to be sleeping as well.

He goes to bed absolutely fine, as I said, he has the same routine of a drink of milk, a bath and a story. But I've started to notice it's just taking him ages to go off to sleep.

He's not playing up, he's not getting out of bed, or refusing to go to bed, he just can't sleep. And sometimes on a bad night this is going on until 10 o'clock at night.

There are no behaviour problems with him, he eats well, probably watches a little too much tv, but doesn't have a tv in his room or anything, and he isn't playing video games or anything to over stimulate him. He gets plenty of exercise, weekends we are usually outside for hours in the park or on long walks.

For example yesterday I picked him up from school, we went to the shops, we had tea then he had his swimming lesson, bath, story and bed by 7.30pm. He was still tossing and turning up there at 9 o'clock.

Tonight I've picked him up from school, straight home, did homework, had tea. I tried to get him to read his book, he wouldn't go and get his book and was rolling around on the floor (all through tiredness), so I went and got it, then he wouldn't read it, I made the mistake of saying that I'd have to write in his reading journal that he wouldn't read his book, and that led to the tantrum. He was screaming and crying, this is completely unlike him, I know for a fact that it was because he is just completely exhausted, he was inconsolable and ran upstairs to bed sobbing. I went up after him and he was falling asleep while I was talking to him, I persuaded him to get up for a bath and a story and to brush his teeth but I had to undress him as he was ust lying on the floor still sobbing. He calmed down and was happier once he'd had a bath and even said sorry for shouting (I hadn't asked him to ust asked if he was ok now) I'm now thinking that I should have just left him as this seemed to wake him up that all happened at about 5.30pm tonight and he went to bed at about 6.30pm straight after bath and story as he was so tired, and he's still awake now

I really don't know what to do, I leave him to it as he's not getting up, I pop in each hour just to tuck him in and settle him down.

I feel so sorry for him, he's got to go to breakfast club and after school club tomorrow as I will be at work.

As I said he had a routine, the house is nice a quiet, his room is comfy, what else can I try?

OP posts:
girliefriend · 13/11/2013 20:30

hmm that's a tricky one. Is there anything worrying him that would be keeping him awake?

Does he say why he can't sleep?

Aeroaddict · 13/11/2013 20:30

I wonder if he needs a slightly later bed time? It sounds like he is just not tired enough to sleep at the time he has been going. Maybe if you let him stay up until about 8, he would find it easier to go to sleep when he does go to bed?

katieelh · 13/11/2013 20:31

I know you say his room is comfy, but have you tried his mattress out?? I had a shock when I laid down on my sons when he was having trouble sleeping- so much so I went out and bought him a memory foam one e next day!! Might be something to consider.you could possibly try a slitly later bedtime, see if that makes a difference?

Dollslikeyouandme · 13/11/2013 20:38

Thank you for the quick replies.

girliefriend when I ask him he just says he's not tired, but he is tired because he's groggy the next morning, and it catches up with him as with tonight.

That ties in with later bedtime, on the weekends bedtime often is later, and he does got to sleep quicker, usually, but then he's groggy and grumpy the next day, so I definitely think he needs a 7.30 bedtime to get adequate sleep. I could try it in the week, but I'm afraid f what's happened tonight.

His room really is comfy, his matress is about 2 years old, but it wasn't a cheapy one at the time, and I do lie in his bed for stories and I think it's fine.

OP posts:
rumtumtugger · 16/11/2013 22:02

Interested in replies...I'm currently sitting here listening over the baby monitor to 2.9 yo singing 'wind the bobbin up' to herself...

MyMILisfromHELL · 16/11/2013 22:09

Does a 5yo need milk at bedtime? Has he complained of an upset tummy at all? Perhaps his digestive system is working overtime & thus disturbing his sleep, as can eating just before bed can do so.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread