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Dummy to get through the 4-month sleep regression - help or hindrance?

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lbandrb · 09/11/2013 18:21

DS has never been a great sleeper and is now going through the 4-mo sleep regression. Much of the night waking up every 1.5 hours (sometimes more often, sometimes he goes longer), and very alert when he goes down even when almost asleep at bedtime or after night feeds.

He's not dependent on the dummy for sleep generally, but it's the only way I can get him to soothe to sleep in his cot. Problem is that as soon as it falls out he's awake, meaning lots of intervention from me needed. Tried avoiding it to get him to sleep in his cot but meltdown - he can cry for ages even if I soothe. Also tried Pantley's gentle removal method - v. difficult but maybe need to persevere (or is now not the time to try?).

The dummy is probably overall helping more than hindering right now, but the falling-out thing with restless sleep is a huge frustration. And I'm concerned about creating a dependence by relying on it now.

Worth just going with it? Or would I be better to try to avoid with the aim of helping him soothe to sleep totally independently in these restless periods? Not prepared to try cry-it-out.

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lbandrb · 10/11/2013 09:45

Another bad night... Totally torn over whether the dummy aids or abets. Advice needed!

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cupcake78 · 10/11/2013 17:12

We're going through the sleep regression hell as well. I honestly don't know if dummy helps or not.

Dd has one but isn't bothered if it falls out until now. She would also settle without it, sleep through the night, go down for naps and put herself to sleep.

It's all lost op along with all my hope of ever sleeping again and my sanity isn't far behind it Wink.

I think it helps her as there is noway we'd get her to sleep without one. I'm in survival mode. I will do anything it takes to get sleep and worry about it once she's more settled again.

lbandrb · 10/11/2013 17:50

Cupcake78, glad to hear from someone who is facing the same issues, and having exactly the same dummy dilemma!

Soooo hard to know what to do. I had used the dummy to get DS to settle in his cot, initially with my heavy intervention, then before long if all worked well without the need for me or the dummy, but we didn't have very long of that at all before the regression hit.

I'm with you in terms of being in survival mode and am determined to tackle the dummy issue as soon as he comes out of this. I think on balance it helps right now, as it minimises the need for me to intervene heavily in the night and mean in theory he still self-soothes to sleep BUT I've read that how they go to sleep affects what they expect on waking, which is why you're not supposed to feed to sleep and exactly why the dummy is a challenge during periods of unsettled sleep.

Got a friend who has almost always fed to sleep and now she's having big 9-month regression issues...

When did your regression hit? Think we're likely to have a few weeks of this one...

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cupcake78 · 10/11/2013 18:40

Started at 16 weeks. She was 19 weeks this weekend.

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