So my 3.5 yr old DS has generally always been a poor sleeper. Brief period of sleeping through at 18 months (when we thought we had cracked it and conceived DD!) then again around the time he was 3. DH is not back to sitting with him every night to go to sleep, then he is waking up crying many nights or just comes into our bed. You can take him back once he's asleep but trying to do it whilst hes awake results in ALOT of screaming for A LONG time - 2hrs at the last count, then he was back ion our bed an hr later.
DD is just 1. Still breast fed. I don't generally feed her to sleep, she goes down okish. Got DH to go in to her for a couple of weeks overnight and she is now 'sleeping through' - ie without a feed probably 50% of the time BUT is still waking up to 4x and is waking up to start the day at 5.10am every morning If I go in to her I end up feeding her.
DD was much worse a few months ago - I was getting 3-4 hrs a night and completely broken but between the 2 of them we are shattered. I have been much better at accepting things than when DS was a baby when I drove myself mad with 'why wont he sleep' - books, here, talking about it ALL the time. But we are now at a point where I feel if we could just focus on 1 for a few weeks and be strong and consistent then we could probably massively improve the situation - especially DS but I just don't have the energy. DH will sleep through an earthquake so I have to wake him if hes doing it so I still don't get a proper sleep. Oh to have 6 hrs without being woken!
Mostly I am just venting I think but has anyone got any tips on how to be consistent when you are shattered, how to get DH to wake without my input or any suggestions for techniques that might work quickly - over 2-3 nights rather than having to be consistent for 2-3 weeks pr more? Or baby how to just manage the situation so I can fundtion at work?
Thanksx