Bit of a random one but I just wanted to pick people's brains and see if anyone with more experience has any advice.
22mo is still switching between one and two naps a day. If she's doing something interesting in the morning, she'll happily go to 12.30/1 and have at least an hour if not more, which is what she does at her CMs. However if we're in and nothing much is happening, she does get very tired about 10 and we often put her down for a nap. She will then normally have another half hour about 4ish (which has never interfered with bedtime).
However some odd days she is at the CMs from 12-6, rather than 8-4. She's at home with DP, not at groups or shops etc as DP is getting ready to work a long shift after he drops her off. So she wants a nap at 10 (and I don't blame DP for continuing with this as he has to get ready for work). However, she's now refusing to have a late afternoon nap at the CM's - understandable as there are far more exciting things happening - which means she is exhausted by the time I collect her and get her home, and rather grumpy and silly at the CMs.
What confuses things a lot is that the trip to the CMs is 20 mins in the pushchair. If she's kept awake to nap after lunch at the CMs, she will actually fall asleep in the pushchair but won't stay asleep once she's there, so it would end up being a terrible 20 min nap. But while napping in the morning at home, it makes the evenings horrible for CM and me, and I already do straight into bath and bed when I get her home.
Sorry that's so long and waffly! Does anyone with more experience have any suggestions? Oh, have asked the CM obviously, but her children are older and she's new to taking in little ones, so she can't remember too well what her kids did when they napped, and DD is the only mindee she has with this awkward 12 drop off