How do I get 15MO DD into the cot?

[Mckayz]

I am exhausted after DD was up pretty much every half an hour last night from 2am. Then the boys got up at 6 just as she finally went to sleep.

We co-sleep after a visit to PILs when she wouldn't go into the cot they had bought for us and BIL to use when we visit. When we came home she wouldn't go back into the cot here.

I have no idea how to get her to go to sleep in the cot. When she gets put in she screams. It's not just crying it is proper full on screaming. Usually followed by exorcist style vomiting.

I have lost count of the amount of people who tell me that she will fall asleep if I just leave her to cry but it doesn't work.

I need my bed back, I am fed up of being kicked and hit. Also despite being 15 months old she takes up more bed than I do.

I have read No Cry Sleep Soloution and Teach Your Child to sleep and nothing so far has made any difference.

DH works away for 2 months and is due home at the start of December and it would be really nice to be able to share a bed with him and not having wriggly pants in between us.

Plesae help me. I am at my wits end now.

You need to do something like gradual retreat or withdrawal

This is where you stay with them until they are asleep and gradually over time move from hand on their chest, standing next to their cot, being in their to to finally outside their room

I think people who say leave them to cry don't have hardcore sobbers

This technique will work - google it and there's lots about it

You need a stock phrase like it's sleepy time so you can use your voice to comfort

Good luck - I've been there with the sleep deprivation

Just a thought, but what about ditching the cot? Go to a bed, with a guard rail? It's early but I know people who moved to a bed only slightly later?

Will she stay in cot if yu are in the room? Ds went through a very insecure phase and we basically slept on the floor of his room for a while. Usually until he was asleep at night and then for a few hours when e woke up at 3am. It was he'll but at least we all got some sleep and then when he was less insecure we then got a bit tough.

Really sorry you are going through this. It's torture.

Bling we tried with the side off the cot and it was the same thing. Just getting out and screaming instead of standing up in the cot and screaming.

It makes no difference if I am there or not. She doesn't ever lie down or stop screaming.

Much sympathy! Could you feed or snuggle her until she is asleep and then transfer her (put in grobag first so easier to move and carry)? If that works, then try when she's almost but not quite asleep?

How's her understanding? Dd got better when she could understand we go upstairs and say bye-bye to ds etc, nappy, brush teeth, milk, bed.

Also lots of bonjela and a dummy and a bit of paracetamol may help - lots of teething molars at this stage.

NotCitrus, she tends to wake up as soon as she touches the mattress in the cot. I keep trying that most nights but it's like she has a sixth sense or something.

She will sleep on the sofa from 7pm until I take her up to bed. Just don't understand why she won't just sleep in the cot.

Ds did that for a bit - if I kept a fleecy blanket under him when getting him to sleep, and moved it too so his head didn't touch the cold sheet, it helped. Maybe a musical mobile to distract her? Mood light? Different lamp?
Good luck!