Three month old sleep patterns...

[NeatFreak]

My dd is three months and despite her being number three I have no idea how good/ bad her sleeping is. Last night was a typical night-
Slept from about 10pm until 12.30 but wouldn't go back in the crib
then 12.45 until 2.30 in bed with me
Stayed awake for about half an hour with trapped wind
Slept from 3 until 5.30 in bed with me
Woke about 7 am

She seemed genuinely hungry at each wakening and had a proper feed each time. If she isn't hungry she won't take it but a quick cuddle normally sorts her out. Her problem is trapped wind, which can take hours to come out ( gas rather than burpy wind!) and makes her really unsettled, writhing about and bringing her knees up to her chest. If she lies next to me she can sleep through it ok but gets more unsettled in the cot.

I wasn't overly concerned by this as I'm getting chunks of sleep but would like her to sleep in her crib more. More sleep wouldn't ever go amiss though! However, sooo many people have told me their babies are sleeping 10 til 6 or 9 til 7 etc, most with babies younger than mine!

Any tips or reassurance that this is /isn't normal would be appreciated!

I think it's all relative. I'd love it if my 4 month old slept that much (wake 90-120 min for feeds). I've a friend with 4 month old who sleeps 10-3 and 3-6.30 and has done for weeks. Another friend with ff 5 month old still wants one feed in night.

With all of them teething, jabs, developmental milestones ( like rolling over) sleep gets disrupted for a night or two.

I'm telling myself that some babies just take longer to sleep. Also I think some parents MUST exaggerate. I'm also secretly hoping that the smug ones (Facebook posts about their 8 week old sleeping 14 hrs) have a hellish time at 9 months when ours are all sleeping through. That's mean, isn't it?

I know it doesn't last forever and my other two dc slept well by a year without much intervention but it is hard! I just don't know if I should 'do' something or go with the flow. She just wants to be close to me and still gets hungry in the night so it seems mean to change that. I do wonder if she'd sleep better with less feeds though as she wakes with wind, which I assume wouldn't happen if she didn't feed in the night.
Dh refuses to sleep in our bed when dd is in it as he's so scared of rolling onto her and I sleep better when she's in the crib but I keep thinking it won't last long...

Any tips to ease the wind and tummy pain would be helpful. HV didn't help much, I massage most days and she's fully bf so not sure what else I can try!

We've found that lying DD on her back, holding under her calves and encouraging her to bend her knees up helps with trapped wind. Don't force her legs though, just do it if she's willing.

Also holding your hands on her tummy can help, often for several minutes. I think the warmth helps the gas. Man hands are sometimes better at that.