Toddler is suddendly not sleeping through anymore - waking 2-3 times a night

[Haddock73]

Ds1 used to sleep 7pm-6am, with one 2-3 hour nap. He started waking at 5am everyday so. Have tried cuttin his nap back to an hour/hr and a half. This hasn't made any difference except he is now waking 2-3 times a night and still at 5am for the day.

I have a newborn that is waking every 3 hours so I am essentially not sleeping anymore except one 3 hour nap a day between 8-10pm.

I have tried bringin him into bed but he just kicks and screams and wakes the newborn up. I have tried leaving him to cry - he will cry for up to one hour solid. I have tried huggin him til he falls asleep, but as soon as he's out back in the cot he screams. Have tried staying in the room but this makes situations worse.

I am at the point of exhaustion and dizziness from sleep deprivation and stress, my smack hurts and I constantly feel sick. Is there any advice yang more can give me that will get toddler to go back to sleep through?

My guess is this is all down to the arrival of his brother. During the day he is extremely affectionate with the baby, kisses him, gets plenty of hugs and kisses, made to feel like he's helping with nappy changes etc. I don't kow how else to make him feel more secure.

My toddler is pretty crap at sleeping. What has helped a bit is writing a little book together about how she is learning to sleep like a big girl, with pics etc explaining that we'll check her if she wakes.

Good luck. It'll pass.

Thanks banana, I'll give that a go. It's just co,d on suddendly which makes me think its related to the arrival of the new baby but I've done everything I can to make him feel secure and loved in this time.

First of all I'd rule out a physical cause. I say this because I thought dd was having a reaction to her new sibling (she was 2.9 at time)- disrupted sleep etc. it turned out she had threadworms. As soon as that was sorted, so was she. Previously her sleep has been disturbed by nits, and a uti.

Re the early wakings, a Gro Clock worked for us until recently (she is now 3.6).

I'd let him nap as much as he needs- a) so he isn't overtired (which can affect night time sleep) and b) to give you a break/nap if poss.

How old is he OP?

He's 2 - he's also got s cold which has lingered and teething at the moment as well. As soon as I hug him he's quiet, but cries to be picked up if he's put back in cot.

It's tough because I'm literally up all night with the newborn and now the toddler - who used to sleep like a dream before baby came along.

Do you have a DP? I think it would be reasonable to ask them to deal with toddler at night.