should i move ds2 back into our room ? don't know if it will help

[helpineedajob]

Ds2 is 20 months and has never been a good sleeper. he moved to his own room around 8m . i stopped feeding at night maybe 6 weeks ago as he would feed for 20 mins then crawl off the bed for a run round and take hours to settle. so for 6 weeks we haven't taken him out of his cot just patted him back to sleep.

but he is not getting any better at night its getting worse the last 2 nights he has been awake for near 3 hours during the nightwanting to get out of his cot.

if he lies down i will stay with him and pat him and when he won't lie down i leave the room for 5 mins at a time till he will lie back down.

I have stopped morning feeds the last 2 days (so not feeding at all now) in case he was confused and wanting his morning feed/suckle . He is not especially hungry/thirsty in the morning.

Not sure if bringing his cot back to our Room it would make him feel we are always there and so he would be more secure and wake less or if he would wake see us and want out of his cot to play. If he would co sleep i would do this but past experienceshows he would crawl of the bed and want to play.

Any ideas would be appreciated

No idea what solution you need.

Just wanted you to know you are not alone. I have a 13 month old like this. In fact, they sound very similar.

Last night she was awake for 2 hours - between midnight and 2am singing like a drunk, crashing from one end of her cot to the other. Every so often she would scream and cry, then go back to giggling.

Terrible, and like you said in your OP, myself and DH are tearing our hair out.

One thing I will say is: don't blame yourself. My older child never did any of this crap, and we parented him in the same way, and her cot was his old cot. I think it's just a personality thing and some kids need less sleep than others (although I still need the same amount of sleep as before!)

"This too shall pass, this too shall pass..."

My dd is exactly the same, she's 15 months. She not a bad sleeper overall and goes down fine but she has the odd night or two where she wakes up anytime after midnight and seems to have a merry party to herself for an hr or two! She may cry out in between and if so I will go in and comfort her but I tend to just leave her to it if she isn't crying out, I've found when I go in and try and put her to sleep in the middle of her little party it makes her worse. Sorry don't have any ideas really I'm just riding it out out and praying shell sleep one day...