How do you teach an 11 month old to not always need feeding to sleep?

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DD co-sleeps, which I am happy to continue (lone parent so no impact other than losing over half the bed to her)
However she needs feeding back to sleep every time she stirs. from about 8pm-12/1am (when I go to bed) she will wake every 30-45 mins and feed for about 5 minutes, then once I go to sleep she will usually sleep through or feed once until 8am

If I leave her when she's woken up she will just sit herself up and get hysterical, if I try to lay by her without feeding her she will cry and scratch at my chest until I feed her, if I rock/sing she will just carry on crying and flailing about.

I wouldn't mind feeding her a couple of times, but it gets so wearing the amount each evening. I preferably don't want to leave her crying though, so has anyone got any ideas?

She will go to sleep in the buggy in the day as long as she's pushed in it for about 20 mins, and has her favourite cuddly toy and food in her hand (not sure why but that is vital) but other than that she needs feeding then too.

I found the books 'the no cry sleep solution ' and 'teach your child to sleep' really useful. We did the gradual retreat method which involved gently reducing the amount of support needed to go to sleep over a couple of months. The first step of rocking to sleep was a bit tricky but we persevered and then moved on to the next step. It took a while but was well worth it and much less stressful than CC.

There's an elizabeth pantley book that's often recommended on here too.

It may be no help to you, but my dd did just grow out if it. I can't quite remember exactly when. But roughly... She needed fed to sleep until around 18-20 months. Them cuddled, rocked etc for maybe another sux months. Then suddenly learned to go to sleep herself.

If course she's now 3.5 and often wants me to hold her hand to help her sleep. And will shout me in the night to hold her hand, stroke her etc - not every night and usually only once a night.

I think some children just need that extra bit of reassurance.

But I know it's really tough when you're in the middle of it b

gradual retreat worked for us at 10mo but we didn't co-sleep.

I'm sort of going through this too. I think it's going to take a while but in the middle of the night when my ds is quite deeply sleeping, he just needs the reassurance of the boob, rather feeding iyswim, so I've been giving it too him when he roots for it but withdrawing once he relaxes. He sometimes flails a bit but if I softly pat his back or gently tickle he drops off again. Recently I've done this straight away and not given him my boob and he has flailed for a couple of seconds and then dropped off without it. Does that make sense? That was the first step, not sure what to do next though!

I'm in the same boat, 8 month old.!! Did two days CC as felt pressured by friends etc but hated it so much & it has just resulted in his sleep being worse since. Desperately looking for other options ( just ordered books above recommended) not going back to work until baba will be 13 1/2 months so I've got time but I need to get him sleeping before then..!!

We have developed some (habits society see as "bad habits" ie feeding to sleep, co-sleeping, night waking & feeding /comforting on demand.

As I'm not expressing the feeding is all on me & with his night waking I can't leave him as he may wake & dad can't comfort him.! I will need to go out (not that I drink & currently dont feel the need to go out) but I will at some point.!

It's very confusing & people just don't like BF I find it staggering only 1% feed until 6 months.!! I love it & have lost over two stone off my per pregnancy weight..!!!!

If only I could sleep I would look like a fresh faced new women (",) lol