Help with my 6mth old please before I have a breakdown :-(

[Nemo1977]

DD has always been a bad sleeper but it was down to her reflux and asthma/coughing/chest infections. However reflux is under control so she is no longer waking for milk she just wakes up to play. No once a night I could handle but on a average night it is 1.30am 2.30am, 3.15am, 5am,6.30am at which point DS gets up too. To add to this I am 10wks pg and am really suffering. The past few weeks the sheer exhaustion is really getting to me and I can feel myself slipping lower and lower in mood. I do suffer from depression and lack of sleep is just making it all the more unbearable. I am also crying when she wakes up with the lack of sleep and I just dont know what to do anymore. DH tries to help but he genuinely doesnt hear her when she wakes up. If I wake him he will go in and settle her then is back asleep himself in minutes. I still end up being awake so really need help before I loose the plot.

If you've really reached that point, have a look at Dr Richard Ferber's book, Solve your Child's Sleep Problems.
Very reasonable, doable; kindly, comforting tone and he knows his stuff.
You can change things and quite quickly with the right advice.
I hope things pick up for you soon.

Thanks baked potato..just looking on ebay to see if I can get it on there.

or your library could get it in for you?

Oh this brings back bad memories for me Nemo. Up until a year ago my ds now 4.5 was up 3 to 4 times in the night. 3 years of broken sleep completely destroyed me. How old is dd? In desperation I had to ignore ds who soon learned I wasnt playing ball and after what felt like a very long time (week) ds gave up the ghost and settled down.

ask ur dh if he would sleep in her room for a couple of night to allow you some sleep. My dh did this for me when ds1 waking up.

Sorry can see dd is 6 months from thread title

nicknack there is no roomfor dh to sleep in with her as she is in box room. She will be moving in with ds when the baby comes which obviously gives me 6mths to sort her out completely. Think the lack of sleep is worse as DS only started sleeping through when DD was born and he is 2.8yrs so all I can see stretching ahead is another 3+ yrs of no sleep

hi nemo. I really feelfor you.I am a first timemum and ds is now 10 months. he was a terrible sleeper up until about 8 months and he too had reflux which he had to grow out of as gaviscon didnt work. I use to give him a really nice relaxing bath with olverum which isall essential oils. I then gave him milk in his cot put him down and only went in if he was really crying which was usually wind or a nappy chg. When hewoke in the night i gave him a drink of water a dummy tucked him in and left without making eye contact. he soon realised how to settle himself and now gets up once a night andistill just do the water thing. sometimes i go down stairs to get hima drink and by the time i getback up hes asleep.
I also put loads of dummies in his cot so he could reach for one to settle himself.
It took about 4 days of moaning and crying but after this he seemed to get the message, he still wakes up ifhes not well or teething badly.
sorry notmuch help but knoe how much of a struggle it is.
Also i used to give ds to mymum for the day andjust sleep until i had to pick him up.
HV suggested bin bags on the window which also helped keephis room really dark

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