If you routinely lie down with toddler to get them to sleep, do they ever learn to self settle?

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I'm losing the plot with this a little. DS2 has double bed in his bedroom and, since sleep regression and for one reason or another, we have ended up lying down with him to get him to sleep. This can take over an hour, leaves little time to spend with other older DS, and because he obviously expects one of us to be there, when he wakes in the night alone, one of us has to get into bed with him.

Also, DH won't work with me on any sleep training so it seems we are stuck with this approach. So, my question is, how long will it take for a 2yo to teach himself to self soothe? If at all? Will we be doing this for years?

I've a 3 year old who still requires me to stay with her until she falls asleep. We now have a VERY strict routine at bedtime, which means that at least I'm back downstairs by 7.45. We've done months of gradual retreat, CC, etc etc It was hell and led me to crying into a glass of wine most nights. So I've completely gone the other way and try to give her as much comfort as possible and try to do relaxation with her.

Things are getting better as before it was taking till 9.30pm.

So sorry that I'm not answering your question but I wanted to give a different perspective to the gradual retreat if it's nit for you/your DH