DD going through a particularly grim stage at the moment (18 mo) although has never been great. I am prone to anxiety as it is and I know she is currently sleeping a lot less than she is 'supposed' to - despite me doing everything in my power to persuade her. But objectively, when I can drag my head of my sleep deprived and anxiety ridden fog, she seems fine - pretty happy bar the usual toddler frustration and random clinginess, and developing fine.
So I need to rewire my brain with stories of others whose little ones sleep much less and are totally fine, even if their parents aren't... Hearing about my friends baby at the same age, who naps for 2.5 hours, sleeps 12 at night and has to be woken in the morning is not helping.
Anyone's toddlers also sleep significantly less than a 2 hour nap (whats that?), and for whom 11/12 hours a night is a far off pipe dream? (Obviously this might be a bit of a biased survey as you're unlikely to be perusing 'sleep' unless you aren't getting enough!).