The end of co-sleeping

[PukousMucous]

I would really like to hear how people ended their co-sleeping relationships. Did it happen organically or did you do things to change it.

I co sleep with DS which I love but DH is convinced he'll be sleeping with us til he's 21. I have no idea how it would pan out so would be grateful to hear some stories of those who've done it.

It just happened....dd was almost 6

She decided herself. First few nights she did come a-creeping through and join us and I was pleased but then she just settled in her own room.

JustBecause that sounds lovely that she made the move.

Anyone else?

How old? I started putting dd in her cot from 6 months for the start of the night then would co sleep the rest. By 9 months I would put her back into her cot after each feed. Now at 20 months I occasionally cosleep after midnight if she's unsettled.
Her older brother - we set up a bed in his room and used it regularly until he was 3.

How old is your DC?

We didn't start co sleeping until DD was 6 months and I put her in her own bed when she was about 20 months as i was pregnant with DC2. She was still waking up quite alot at night and needing to be bf to sleep so I night weaned at the same time. It was surprisingly easy. She is 23 months now, still wakes up a few times a night but sleeps so much better in her own bed.

Same as creatureretorts, we started the night off with DS in his own bed, then he coslept with us from around midnight. Since he turned 2 a couple of months ago we started keeping him in his own bed after the first wake up with one of us staying to settle him. After that he began waking later and coming in with us later and later, from 3am, then from 4 etc until this last few weeks he's been coming in at 6 so my dh just got up with him then. Now he comes in, says good morning, has a quick cuddle then wants to know where his breakfast is!

So we've done nothing much really and he's just got there gradually with only a bit of gentle encouragement. We've agonized over it at different times but decided we were happy with what we were doing, the only reason we stopped bringing him in so early is because I'm pregnant and he wasn't leaving us much room!

Ds1 just seemed to want more space around about 18m - was getting very wriggly and pushing us out of bed! Started putting into cot after feeding (I think sides were still on at that time). Most nights he was happy to stay there, seemed to prefer the space, sometimes waking for a feed and going back if I could be bothered, other times staying in our bed. When the cot side came off he'd occasionally potter in and was (nearly) always welcomed. Still often jumps in with us/daddy at 5
Twins are just 1 - DD mostly sleeps through and is content to be fed to sleep and deposited in cot. Other nights if she wakes she'll sleep with me & brother. We remain shocked at the sleeping -no sleep training, not done anything deliberate, just her. Does a great starfish impression.
Twin bro doesn't sleep for more than a couple of hours without feeding most nights, so he's generally in with me/us. Have a double bed in the babies room wedged into the corner so only access is via the foot end - he tends to snooze on there since transferring to cot wakes him straight up again. I'd imagine he'll gradually grow out of it as he starts sleeping for longer periods. Obviously, I could night-wean and do a bit of sleep training, but far too lazy for that (and we do like our nighttime cuddles).
Having the two double beds set up for safe co-sleeping is fab.

When dd was about 13 months she suddenly stopped feeding in the night and started wanting her own space rather then cuddling up with me all night. It seemed like a good time for us to give it a go with her in a different room.

We went a sort of half hearted approach. Rather then using a cot dd sleeps on a single mattress on the floor of her room. Her room is right next to ours so we leave the doors open (there is a stair gate across the hall so she can't go anywhere else) and when she wakes in the night she just walks through to our room and comes into bed with us. This happens any time between 11pm and 6am. So sometimes she is in with us most of the night sometimes not. We don't really mind so leave it up to her.