Hmmm... Suggestions appreciated

[KatieLily12]

Hi all

Our tricksy sleeper is now 9 months and I'm feeling ready to try some gentle sleep training. She currently cuddles to sleep and seems to be resisting that lately but screams if left.

She doesn't resettle independently although has transitioned to a cot and is sleeping a little deeper. She won't sleep past 40 minutes for a nap unless I give her a cuddle again. Nights are still the minimum of 1-2 wake, change and feed and evenings are tricksy too. She never slept through. I laugh when people ask.

We've moved her into a cot next to us after 8 months of co sleeping and would like to move her to her own room next month. I see this as a huge step forward and she'll do 40 minutes in the pram. Sometimes stationary!!!

I hate cry it out style methods but do understand some crying needs to happen (she does that on me sometimes so I can handle a tired grizzle).

I need a settling down method if she's going into her own room as I currently cuddle her in our bed then pop her v drowsy into cot next to us.

I have no idea what to try though so would really like some thoughts as transitioning from a cuddle has proved quite tricky.

Thanks all

I think you are doing really, really well if your 9 month old only wakes once or twice a night. Don't forget that at 9 months there is a sleep regression and half of all 1 year olds still wake.

The isis website is a great place to start.

How are you settling her now if she wakes? When you say you change her, is that just if she had pooed?

She HATES being wet Jilted. So we change, feed and cuddle her back down.

I don't tend to fixate on 'she should sleep through by now' or any of that rubbish. She's been SUCH a difficult sleeper that I'm just grateful that she's been doing this. I am very aware it could just be a phases and we could return to the 5-6 average. She still regularly ha 3 hour awake parties.

My main concern is getting her a little more weaned off of me for the transition to her room where it just won't be practical to cuddle her till she sleeps. She also seems to be fighting it a little so I feel it's time

Just read that regression link. Sounds like us on an average day! I thought this night just be a phase

Btw by once a night I don't count the dozen or so resettles in the evening. Those aren't my night.... !!

Ok so if you want ways to get her settled in her new room try googling askdrsears 12 alternatives.

This book is very good too. Your library might have a copy

You sensed I was more Sears than Ford eh?

Thanks. It's the next steps that I'm not sure of. I've been happy to let her lead seeing as anything I tried made little difference anyway! Other than establishing a night routine we've not really had much choice and I see training as something you do to a dog not a baby. However, there seems to be a change and if like to respond to it.

Many thanks again