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Anyone else's LO refuse to settle with DP?

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KatieLily12 · 26/07/2013 20:47

Oh man what a row we've just had. All while bean is crying. Feel awful so can someone please help or reassure?

We have very much not gone the route of sleeping training. Little one doesn't sleep and had early problems with reflux/ nursing strike so I just accepted that sleep was hard fought till she was a bit bigger. I've walked her endlessly, tried various things and things are slowly (oh so slowly) getting better.

Trouble is, DP has not persevered. He used to do one nap time walk a month till I just broke down in tears one day trying to get a load of jobs done and he's started to try some outside walks. It's very hit or miss.

In the evenings though its a nightmare. LO will only settle with me. She goes bananas if he goes in to resettle her. He always calls me in after a while.

Has anyone else had this? yes, DP needs to get his finger out a bit but he's also not getting anywhere with her at all. I just found him pleading and shushing and rocking and little one hysterical after I put my iPod on as I have to work in the evenings. I don't have any time to juggle being self employed and a full time mum so I have to sometimes make him go. It's such a disaster though.

Help?

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KatieLily12 · 26/07/2013 21:07

Oh I should have said LO is now nearly 9 months and I wouldn't normally put my iPod on but we promised to try next time so I can earn an he can try. I get too upset and end up with milk everywhere otherwise!

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haloflo · 29/07/2013 20:53

I'd say he needs to stick at it but what might help is if he spends more special one of one time with her. (Apologies if he already does but I guess he works?) So all morning on a Saturday they play. He settles her for a nap in cot or pushchair - he gets her when she wakes. Basically so she sees her daddy just before sleep and as she wakes. Once he has the knack of naptime he could try bedtime & evening wake ups?

Its not fair for you to do it all so iPod is fine IMO. He might find what works for you doesn't for him and vice versa. So he might hold her hand or something completely different to you.

KatieLily12 · 31/07/2013 19:34

Yeah I think he needs to build his confidence in general. She's getting really reluctant to go to him for anything other than a little 5 minute play or walk in the sling. Really hoping that its just a phase as its making me so sad to see.

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