21mo DD still won't self-settle

[BabCNesbitt]

Since she was born, the only way we've got her to sleep is either BFing her or (necessary at bedtime) BFing, singing and bouncing in her carrier. We've never managed to put her down sleepy and have her fall asleep - she immediately wakes and starts yelling. We tried sitting quietly in the dark with her until she fell asleep, and this (eventually) worked for about a week, but then it stopped working and we went back to the same old rigmarole.

She was co-sleeping with us until about a month and a half ago, but she still wakes at least 3 or 4 times during the night and immediately cries or shouts for mummy, and the only way she'll fall asleep again is, yep, BFing or bouncing and singing. Frankly, we're bloody knackered. I don't want to do controlled crying, but does anyone have any other suggestions?

Should add that there's been a bit of upheaval for her recently, in that we came over to the UK three months ago for a short stay and we'll be moving back again shortly, so I don't want to try anything until we're back settled in the new place, but would appreciate suggestions, reading etc to mull over until we're ready to give it a try. (I mean, I'm bloody ready, but I accept that it's probably not the best time for her!)

Bumping - I'm currently at an airport waiting for a long plane ride with DH and DD and have had 45 minutes' sleep because she kept waiting up and wanting milk

sadly I have no answers, but bumping this for you. We have a 24 month old who does exactly the same, never self settled, always falls asleep nursing. Waking up from 2-5 times a night wanting to nurse, crying for me.
I am exhausted and not really sure what to do next! I don't want to do CC or CIO but she just doesn't seem to be able to go into deep sleep without me ( or my boob to be precise).

My 22 month old is like this and after an improvement it is getting worse again.
My Dp is taking a week off work soon so we can night wean him, it's going to be hard, he gets beside himself quickly and doesn't stop when he doesn't get boob.
Not much help but just saying I feel your pain, it feels like it will never end.
I bought a cd called sleep sleep sleep now, played it last night which relaxed him more than usual, I then slept at the other end of the bed so he couldn't roll over and latch on, he woke 3 times, which is great considering it can be 5-8 times a night (has been up to 12 previously, no joke).
May have been a one off though, I'm pleased to have had 6 hours with only 1 waking half way through.
Hope you sort it soon.