Has anyone night weaned using Dr Jay Gordon? Did it work?

[SwivelHips]

DS (13 months) has never been a good sleeper, past few weeks/months its getting steadily worse. We've been co-sleeping since 8months, had a few good spells in there but no more. DS wakes up all bloody night, crys/screams until he gets back on the boob (I've day weaned so he really has to go some to get a letdown), and so it repeats. He's also now started waking up for the day at 5am. I can't take it anymore. Even DH is losing the plot with the situation.
so, as a starting point I thought i would night wean him. Was reading Dr Jay Gordon - what do you think? any success stories?
I dont have the heart to do gradual withdrawal in his own room, just too tired really.

Hey Swivel
Not going to be any help really, just bumping for you. But I think from previous posts I remember we have similar babies! DD is the same age, also day weaned and the only thing to get her to bed at night is the boob. She various from feeding 1-3 times per night. I'm pretty much going with the flow as can't face trying long drawn out methods of settling her in the middle of the night. Yesterday however for the first time DH did her bedtime and got her down pretty well with cuddles. When she woke in the night, I offered a drink of water and picked her up and let her look out of the window. This calmed her down enough to then go back to sleep in my arms. Did it again when she woke at 4 and she actually went all night without feeding and without tears/a battle, which is want I want to avoid. This may have been complete beginners luck, but we'll try it again and see tonight.

I don't know about Jay Gordon method - I will google it now. I've been trying a form of very gradual withdrawal at bedtime, but without much success and have gone back to patting her to sleep, but have managed to break the feed to sleep association for bedtime at least.

Good luck and hope you get some answers.

Hey thanks Blushing. Yeh I've also been going with the flow but he wakes up hourly (or at least it feels like that), dont think the weather is helping him either. Its getting worse as he gets older, never thought it was possible.
Doesn't sound too bad your end, I do offer water but he just pulls at my top with a ferocity I would never have believed. Feed to sleep here stopped working couple of months ago. How was it last night? Fingers crossed your DD has turned a corner.
Meanwhile here DH currently has him in bedroom but I can hear the shouting from here (DS not DH!!)
Still haven't done anything about night weaning, still too tired. I'll pull out my dogeared copy of NCSS...give that another go :)

Yes feeding to sleep stopped working for us at bedtime a couple of months ago, but still seems to sort her out during the night. The night before last I aimed to do what I'd done the previous night and ended up being awake for 4 hours in the middle of the night, so last night we went back to just feeding whenever she woke and got much more sleep!

I'm really conflicted about the night weaning. I feel like maybe it's what I need to do to get her near to sleeping through, but like you, don't have much energy for it - it's just easier to feed in bed half asleep and get her settled quickly. I'm also worried about stopping night feeds because that would then mean stopping breastfeeding and I really don't want to end up with the situation of having stopped bf and not being able to settle her at all at night!

I guess I'll just carry on feeding and hope that one day she'll sleep through. I mean, they must at some point hey?!

Exactly how I feel blushing. Right now I can settle him pretty quickly the 7 or so times the little sod wakes up. Take that tool away from me.....I have little confidence to try.
Yes, one day they will sleep through. DS will be bloody 14 or thereabouts it feels like :)

Just to say that im in the same boat. DS just turned 1 and wakes 1/3 times a night and has done since birth. Bfing to sleep stopped being failproof about 2/3 mo ago, now he.s just as likely to scream when i put him back down in the night. And i mean scream like he.s having his toenails extracted! I stopped feeding to sleep at bedtime about 1.5 mo ago and he now puts himself to sleep eventually albeit with a lot of help from me or DP - patting, singing, ssshing etc. Sometimes i think this has helped as he sometimes cries out once in night but then goes back to sleep. In recent weeks he.s started sleeping on his side and tummy which i think has helped self settle a little. But he still wakes frequently and 9/10 boob is the only way to get him back.
Started NCSS, hence stopping bfing at bedtime, but havent yet had courage or energy to not feed him at night and to use the technique at night that we do at bedtime. Tooooooo tired to try! Also read and considering dr jay to night wean, but DS only really bfs now at bedtime or night so i think i.d miss it if he only bf at bedtime.... Maybe im just an enabler and am part of the sleep problem :-/
Either way i go back to work in 5 weeks and one thing is for sure - i need more than 2.5hrs unbroken sleep in order to function. Might have to do a mix of NCSS, dr jay and dare i say it a bit of letting him cry it out a little....although id have to be hovering close by so he doesnt feel too abandoned.
Who knows. My mum pointed out that i didnt sleep thriugh til i was 5 so god help us all....

A friend of mine had this - she was encouraged to make sure her DD took in more milk during the day, and to only bf night and morning. It worked for her after a few difficult nights. With this in mind, I'm planning on night weaning first, then dropping most of the day feeds!