help, I can't have another night like this!

[Highschoolsweetheart]

My DD is 3.5yrs old. She has always been a great sleeper up until the last week, she is screaming so much she is making herself sick and she is getting so frustrated with her self she is pulling her own hair out.

No part of her routine has changed. Or her room, everything is exactly the same as it always has been.

She isn't as vocally capable (if that's the right words to use) as others her age, she can talk she can tell me if something is wrong but she is just telling me to go away. Normally if anything is wrong she tells me I'm just at my wits end with it. Please any advice will be greatly appreciated

what has her evening routine been like?

rather than focusing on things being the same, i would try making things different.

Is it worth taking her to the GP's? My DS did this and though he wasn't in any pain (according to him) he had a GOD awful ear infection.

If it's just behavioral then ride it out and stay as firm as you can (i.e don't pick her up/go in to often or quickly etc).

It's so horrible & frustrating when their sleeping is this badly disrupted so hope it's just a bit of a phase

Pick up from nursery at 3.10 to 3.20
Home for 3.20to 3.30
Play till 5
Tea at roughly 5.15
Bath at 5.45
Warm drink and a book or 2 at 6.15
Lights out at 6.30

What would you suggest I change?

as she has always been a good sleeper and this has come out of the blue, there must be something behind it so IF IT WAS ME [and i know some people would think it bonkers] i would take her to be d with me for the night and see if that helped her to sleep. or let her stay up later or do something DIFFERENT and see if she responded differently.

She was checked over by our local GP's nurse on Wednesday (asthma review) but she does the full check, nose, ears, temperature etc. And there was nothing. It a behaviour thing I just don't know why.

Does it really help though to change something? I want this to be over. I will try it though if that's the best thing

i don'tknow if it's the best thing-it's just what i would do.

keeping everything the same isn't helping though so it's worth a try.

Yea and as she doesn't have nursery tomorrow I suppose a later night won't hurt. It's got to be better than hearing her scream that much. It feels like my heart is being ripped out when she is like that.

Maybe she's having night terrors or bad dreams or something? Is it the same time or different times?
I can't give any advice but maybe you could do some research into how to deal with dreams in little ones.
Sorry if this isn't any help!

I dont think it's dreams to be honest she screams from when I leave the room, but once she is asleep that's the end of it, until the next night. She can be quite a clingy child but I've never had a bedtime issue with her she has slept in her own room from 9 months old and has always self soothed. She has a comfort blanket and her doggie (another comforter) but she still screams. I'm at a loss she is my first and only child and I don't know what to do.

I'm giving the staying up late thing ago tonight, she has had a bath and is ready for bed I'm going to give it till 8 and see how she is then

Oh, I see. Thought it was the middle of the night screaming, sorry.
My DS (2.5) does this when we leave at bedtime too. He is very clingy also. I think it is quite common. They still have separation problems up to 5 I've read.
We just settle and keep going in to say its bedtime and reassuring him we're not far away. He was doing this for a while tonight before eventually settling. I can't say how to stop it though! I think I'm going to try starting bedtime earlier so that when he does go to sleep its a reasonable hour!
Good luck with your DD.

How did it go tonight OP?

It's now 10.45 and she has just fallen asleep. At 8 I put her to bed and she did the usual hair pulling and screaming. I broke down in tears and rang my MIL at 9.30 and she suggested sitting with my back to her on the landing, Until she went to sleep. This worked the best I think. I've just spoke to my MIL again and she said just do that and every night move further away from the door till I'm down stairs.

Thank you all for your help.