DD seems to want to cry herself to sleep

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DD is only 19 weeks. I am not a huge fan of CC (not against it, just don't fancy it) but DD seems to want to scream quite a lot - about 20min - to get herself off to sleep.
DS wasn't like this at all..
I'm BF and will try and feed her to sleep but mostly she feeds until very full and then squirms in my arms until I put her down in cot. Then she'll lie there beaming at me. So I give her a little pat and a kiss and walk away. She'll then whinge and build up to a proper cry. Throwing her head about from side to side.
If I go in and pick her up she gets even more wound up - so I tend to leave her to it but I'm finding it hard to bear and I'm worried she's too young to be left to wail?

If I stay in room with my hand on her she goes berserk too...

Oh yeah and I asked a nursery nurse at weighing clinic and she said DD was "learning to manipulate me"!

'Learning to manipulate you'?? WTF! If it makes you feel any better mines the same, sometimes I can bf her to sleep but only when she's really tired. Often she's already filled up and gets into a tizzy if I try and get her to feed. I've tried lying in bed with her but that seems to just irritate her! So now I do the same as you, she's been like this for a few weeks now. On the plus side, she likes to be in bed by 6 and after a few cuddles etc (usually followed by a bit of a shout) she's asleep by about 630. I hate to hear them cry but although she will still have a shout for a bit is less then 10 mins now. I've got used to it as well so I can tell now when its a crying off to sleep cry and when its a I still have wind cry. I did try a dummy but she won't take them, but I have found she's got one particularly soft blanket she likes to hug and sort of nibble, she's much happier self settling with that and most nights she'll have a shout just when I leave the room but is soon happy sucking on her blanket and off to sleep. I wouldn't worry, as long as you know she's fully winded etc then I'd take her lead. It might well be easier in the long run as she should be better at self soothing back to sleep when she stirs in the night. Mines the same age too!

What time do you put her down? What if she stayed up with you for a bit - would she fall asleep a bit later or does she always grizzle to sleep?

My DD is 17 weeks and her natural bedtime seems to be about 9pm. I'd prefer it if she was in her cot asleep by 7pm but she's got other ideas. She will quite happily sit on my knee quietly in the evenings or lie propped up on a cushion on the couch though. She seems to realise that evenings are for winding down!

Have you tried white noise? I can't seem to feed my 15 wo DD to sleep but she grizzles in her cot awake. I put the white noise on and sometimes she just turns her head and goes to sleep.

Notanymore - they sound identical. DD won't entertain a dummy either, likes to gnaw on a blanket or something too but not enough to settle her.

She goes to bed about 6-7. The thing is, she is really tired so I'm not sure keeping her up would help - plus, selfishly, I need some time to sit down clean up.

Not tried white noise.... Maybe I should!