Screaming

[Missireland1990]

I have a 9month old boy. He has always been great sleeping in his own bed but I recently had him in bed with me every night for the past 2months as his father passed away. Tonight I have tried to get him to sleep in his bed all night , he did up till 230am then he screamed at the top of his lungs for me to pick him up and bring him to my bed. I tried controlled crying but he doesn't cry at all he just screams beyond belief , screams till he starts choking, it's scary.
I kept picking him up when he was starting to choke then would put him down again , I went over this for an hour but his screaming literally broke me down into tears.
What can I do ? This screaming is scary

I don't know what to tell you but I'm very sorry he lost his dad, was he also your OH?

Maybe baby is just missing his dad?

He never knew his dad . His dad was in the USA working on his UK visa so he didn't know him so I ruled out it having anything to do with his dad passing away.
He screams uncontrollably also throughout the day where I feel like my neighbours will call the services because he seriously screams like somebody is hurting him, it's scary.
He will automatically stop if he is picked up but I can not continuously pick him up all day and night .

Ive just seen this and as it was a few days ago, how are things now? Just out of interest, is his bed in your room? If not, try moving it into your room for now and slowly make the transition step by step. Eventually moving him back into his own room.

Ive heard that seperation anxiety does get worse at around 9/10 months so maybe its just him panicking about being away from you especially if youve been sharing a bed for 2 months.

As for the screaming, some babies do just seem to have a scream rather than a cry and if you're sure he's not poorly in any way, i'd just put my faith in this difficult phase passing. When my dd was younger she had an awful scream..my next door neighbours even asked me about it. I too was worried about someone calling social services because of the sound coming out of her mouth! I found ear plugs helped, so i could still hear her but it wasnt as intense. So maybe in the meantime give those a try?

If things carry on for a significant period of time try speaking to your HV about it.

Hope you manage to get some sleep soon!