Please help with my 8MO

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I cannot keep her awake past 6.15pm, she has a meltdown if I try to change this.
She's decided now we need to get up at 4am. When the birds start singing. It's killing me and the family.
She has one nap at 9am for 1/2 hour and then sleeps 12-2.30.
She loves her sleep but the 4am start is killing me. My parents are next door and finding it frustrating.
She refused her bedtime bottle for the last week. Do I drop a nap?
Going to sleep is never and issue. She doesn't wake upset she just shouts and screeches. She's still in with me in her cot as we don't have her own room yet.

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Does she sleep in with you or her own room? Do you leave her to chat for a while as she might go back to sleep?

She has to be in with me, I leave her and it just gets louder and louder. Wakes the whole house up.
I've managed to get her to bed half a hour later tonight.
I think the birds start waking her, my dad works long hours and today it's been constant moaning from them about her waking early.
It's not been happening that long, it used to be 6am, that was manageable

Have you tried a blackout blind?

Have you tried white noise running all night on a loop? Do you have an effective blackout blind? Have you tried 'wake-to-sleep'? Do you use any sleep cues you could replicate at 4am? The room is not too hot, not too cold, etc. by 4am? Is your LO getting plenty of fresh air? Def not hunger waking her up?

I have blackout curtains. I wouldn't know where to start with wake to sleep.
I managed to get her in bed later last night but again she's been up since half four, I ignored her until I can't take anymore.
She's had a bottle, but she won't really drink a bedtime one nor can I get a dream feed into her

I would save my energy for dealing with moaning parents.

You run the risk of screwing up your babies sleep pattern completely if you tinker with it too much.

It sound like your parents are being a bit off putting pressure on you about this, do they not remember ??

I wouldn't try and keep her up if she is tired. Once you are in over tiredness it's hell.

Quite honestly I'd be grateful with what you've got. A baby of that age who goes to sleep in the evenings is pretty great

It is a phase, this too shall pass... But you have an 8m old who sleeps for 10 hours? Wow. I have an 8m old who sleeps for a 4 hour stretch on a v good night. You (and your parents) have got it pretty good

I'm just sick of the huffing and puffing from them. And the can't I take her out stuff,
I'm trying to move, I'm about to take the most hideous 1 bed because of this.
Just one more hour would be great!

My 9month old DS wakes around 5-5.30 each morning. I have tried everything to make him sleep later with no luck.
However I realise that I am very lucky that he goes to bed easily at 7 and sleeps until about 5. I have just decided to go with it and hopefully it will rectify itself. Everything is a phase and will pass x

Thank you.
I am so so pleased that she sleeps so well. She loves going to bed. I think my parents don't understand as I was in neonatal and children's wards for a long time after my birth.

I shall speak to them.

Would it maybe settle her if you brought her into bed with you when she starts stirring at 4am? Even if she didn't go back to sleep she may be quiet enough so at least your parents weren't disturbed.
My lo is 9 months and he used to wake up about 5.30/6.00'ish and he'd settle back to sleep for a bit with me. Having said that he now wakes about 4.30, I usually crack about 5.00 and bring him in and basically just get poked in the face, hair pulled etc. until I give in and get up. So I wouldn't listen to any advice I give!
Alternatively, how about a nice gift of ear plugs for your parent

If the lunchtime nap ends by 14.30 then it doesn't surprise me she's knackered by 18.30, that's 4 hours so I would put to bed and not try to keep up.

I would see if you could push the second nap back by 15 mins each day so she wakes by 3 or 3.30, then might be able to make it to 7pm. My DD (now 10 mo) went through a phase of 4am wakings for about a week. Now wakes at 5, mini feed and will go through to 6 (very occasionally later).