What is the next step in sleeping alone?

[Wiggy29]

dc is 3 month's& currently co-sleeping, which I'm happy to do until they sleep through, BUT (there's always a 'but'), I want to prepare them for sleeping alone in coy at six months. So far, we've managed to stop them
Falling asleep on us/being rocked. Currently, for naps&night times, we put dc innour bed with dummy&lie/sit next to them until they are asleep.

What next? I'm not sure if I should focus on us moving away (e.g. Sitting on floor while they fall asleep&gradually progress this so they go down awake &don't need us there to fall asleep) OR should we focus on falling asleep without a dummy? I've noticed a few times that they drifting into light sleep& aren't bothered if I leave the room but cry if dummy falls out.

I know I need to address both issues to move towards self settling but think tackling both at the same time might be stressful for dc and us, so which goes first? Us in the room or a dummy for sleeping?

Hi

I was the same I started with stroking my lbs temple followed by sitting in a chair close to cot & moving further & further away.I started him at 5 months & was done by 6! I don't agree with CIO method.So now he does cry but I know it will only last around 5 mins ;-)

CIO? Is that crying it out? No, too distressing (for all involved I think). We tried tonight and he had dummy but I faced him away from me and sat away from him on the bed, we did a full on routine of bath, massage, story, feed then little musical seahorse thing. All went great but not sure how it'll work when we try to put him down during the day minus all of this.

What did you do about the dummy?

Yes cry it out! I cannot cannot cannot do it either! We also find it way to distressing in this household! Tbh with Napping it was usually in the car or buggy & if at home I would be less strict ie he would be on our bed or laying with mummy as I use the opportunity for a rest too ;)
Just do what you did last night every single night without fail & you will get there! My lb is 18 months now & he still has his dummy for naps & night time as we are not ready to take it away.Now if his dummy falls out he just pops it back in on his own ;)
If you just get further & further away while baby goes to sleep hopefully eventually you will no longer have to be in the room ;)

Here's hoping! Today he's went down okay on either the sofa or our bed but with us lying next to him and with dummy. It's a step in the right direction at least. We'll do the routine again tonight and going to make sure we stick to it, we did with dc1 and he was ok with bedtimes, was very different though as he had terrible reflux.

Well good luck! ;-)

Thanks, might see if I can start a support thread on here for others in a similar boat, thank you for the advise.x