Is this the rod or are we just bad at sleeping?

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Ds is 2.3yo. We co sleep and still bf. ds and I are at this tender hour up watching v. boring and sleep-inducing train videos. He woke up at 2.30 saying he was hungry (a lie he used two days ago too!). We will be up at least 3 hrs.
My parents are with us atm and work early so we can't try and resist leaving the bed as we maybe should, ds can scream the whole street down, we have tried
He also now refuses to come down with dh and leave me to sleep.
This situation has always been the case, every six or eight weeks he'll start sleeping better (I.e. not waking up completely) and when he turned two I thought we were done with this silliness, stupid me.
I have no idea what to do. We are moving in a few weeks and he'll have his own room (although I don't expect this will be the end of cosleeping).
I am just sooo annoyed. I want to sleep, and I hate to think all of those critics of cosleeping were right!
Thanks for reading my rambling.

On the plus side the video is now finished and he's just worked out how to use scissors...

I'd make the night wakenings very boring (ie no dvd's or food) so there's no "incentive" for him to get up.

If having him in your bed means sleep, so be it. Maybe making a big fuss of his new room when you move eg involving him in decorating etc might make him want to spend more time there

Good luck

Thanks for replying at this silly hour!
You are right, cosleeping has meant more sleep generally, no getting up every night!
We tried making the time really boring, but if he wakes he'll stay awake no matter what, and then it suddenly stops happening. There is no rhyme nor reason. The thing is, I quite like being up at these times, in half term! But going to work the next day is hell.
He's asleep. We are going to bed!

Ouch that's tough. Does he have any sleep in the day?

At the risk of sounding a bit old fashioned sounds to me like it's time to get tough. If he's in a cot still then presumably he can't get up without you getting him out.

If he's not ill, hungry or anything else then I'd leave him for increasing amounts of time to cry.

I know you've said you've done that but I would think this could be a long term stance to take, maybe a good couple of weeks. He's got into a habit of always getting up and getting in with you.

If you're happy to carry on and have him in bed with you then boring is better as previously posted. If he thinks he'll get DVDs and conversation then he won't want to give that up, I wouldn't!

Good luck OP. Sleep has got to be the hardest part of parenting. Don't even ask while I'm up at this ungodly hour!

He wont just ''stop" this. You have to get tough. Unless of.course you want to carry on cosleeping and watching train dvds at 2am.

I coslept with my two DCs until they were 3.5 and nearly 5. Worked for us.

DS was breastfed until he was 3 (by that stage, only once before bed).

Agree that you have to stop "entertaining" him if he wakes up.
The most I did was give my DS a quick feed when he woke - but I guess that doesn't work for you?

We moved them to their own room together, into bunkbeds, but they would still come through to our room during the night every now and again.
Actually it went in phases - they would be in their own bed all night for a couple of weeks, and then like a switch being turned on, they both would wake and come in with us for about week, like clockwork. Then it would be two or three weeks with no wakings

He may surprise you by staying in his room for periods of a couple of weeks when you move

He'll get there eventually He is still so little really...

He doesn't nap anymore. If he does he'd go to bed at around 11pm
I don't have a problem with cosleeping, that isn't what I am trying to stop.
When he wakes like this he's already had a feed and it fails to

Sorry, posted that by mistake.
That last feed doesn't send him to sleep for whatever reason.
If we don't leave the bedroom he can cry for hours, even with us both there with him.
The train DVDs aren't entertaining at all, it's a documentary about the great British rail history!! Eventually it does make us him doze off.
It's the unpredictability of this wakings what makes me stessed.