so tired with non-sleeping 20 month old

[ArabellaBeaumaris]

I am so tired. Did I say that already?

Last night she woke up 3 times, & got up for the day at 5.30. I breastfeed her - she has been night weaned before but we gradually slipped into night feeds again, because she screams blue murder if she doesn't get boob & it's the quickest way to shut her up & get her back to sleep.

I know any chances have to involve me holding out & enduring some screaming. Need handholding/kick up the arse to do so.

Feeling pressured about it as well as I have job interviews coming up, & nights away from DD, & it would just really help if she slept through...

No tips but I am in exactly the same boat with bf & sleep & 22mo DD. I am knackered. Last night she woke so many times. I slept in with her in the end and I felt like she was latched on all night. And she goes nuts if mummy doesn't come, she cries so much, I feel terrible, so I go and feed her. But I am so tired. So, so tired. In fact I think I might go to bed now! I hope someone comes along with a magic potion we can slip them to get some sleep...

You know - it might just take the nights away to sort this out.

Who is going to be looking after her when you are away?

As long as you have a coping strategy in place, the most important thing is not to slip back into the night feeding habit.

hah BiscuitCrumbsInBed, it's totally past my bedtime! I keep meaning to be in bed by 9pm but spend too long dicking around online... DD has this particularly heartrending "Mummmmmmy" that she likes to trot out at 3am...

3littlefrogs DP will look after her, then at the end of July my mum will be looking after her. She needs to be fixed for then!

Really I think what would sort it out is if someone else went into her every night for a week & she would give up, but unfortunately DP can't (& won't!) do it. DD1 was the same - we did controlled crying with her at 15m & she then woke up once a night, until 22m when we stayed with my mum for 3 weeks & my mum went into her every time she woke up, & DD1 concluded there was no point getting up anymore!

Okay, I'm off to bed...

Either DP needs to help you to sort it, or maybe you could ask your mum to come and stay for a week?

I had one who didn't sleep for more than 2 hours at a stretch until he was 14 months old. It nearly killed me. I was so exhausted that I went to stay with my mum. She got up to him and after about 3 nights he was sleeping through.

oh good.
dd is 17 months and was hoping it was nearly over :(

we co-sleep. when she wakes frequently I hook her under my arm and she feeds back to sleep.

the most amount oc sleep for the most people.

Crap. No magic cure then? 13.5 month old whose best stint of sleep is 3 hours, but that's rare. Normally 1-2. 4+ night bf.

No ideas, but just as desperate as you. Oh, and he's a twin. His twin sleeps well, just wakes for one bf. And an 18 month older sister, so I've 3 under 3 to deal with all day too.

Can I give you all an un-mumsnetty hug? I'm sorry to say I don't have any answers

Hi, I am joining in! I don't know any other toddler in RL who is a bad sleeper. All friends' toddlers sttn from few weeks old to few months old. My DD never slept through the night! She is 21 months and still BF.
I sometimes think, maybe I should have done ff and gina ford, like my friends, at least they are getting some sleep...
Her sleep just seems to be getting worse and worse. Could be teething? But last night she was up every hour (not kidding), wanting milk, every time she fell asleep in my arms I put her back in her cot and she would be awake 10 mins later. We co-slept in the end.

Her best nights (which haven't happen for ages) are when she wakes up once for bf. I dream to have them back again! At the moment, it's usually 3 times a night. i am exhausted and sad.
DH tries to help but even if he puts her to bed, she wakes up after 15-20 mins for bf.

OP- don't worry about your nights away. I bet she will react differently to other people than she will to you. In fact, those nights may be the start of night weaning her again.