how much milk before bed?

[nuttymum1]

i am having trouble with my 13 mo he has his dinner at 6 and then bath and a play and is ready for ded about 7.30 it takes 2 bottles of milk for him to settel and he will only go to sleep with the bottle in his mouth or being cuddled and he will wake up up to 5 times a night i have tried various different things but to no luck any tips and sharing what works would be great :)

its been a long time since i had a 13mth old (but as my dd2 is 7mths it wont be long before i had one again) i dont know what your usual routine is but i would try to give him more during the day and then give him solids and juice at 4.30ish then some weetabix and a 9oz bottle before bed. i wouldnt get him used to going to bed with a bottle but if you have already then id let him cry it out til he's out of the habit - or maybe replace with a dummy?

good luck, talk to your health visitor, maybe she can advise better than me.

btw i was having trouble with dd2 waking not long ago see my im going to crack it thread. and i have cracked it.

we give a proper tea at about 4:30 then i give a yoghurt or weetabix about 7 and a breast feed before going down at 7:30 (ish). Ds also used to wake 5-6 times a night for a feed and at 11 months i was exhausted and having sworn never to do controled crying had to give in, after 3 nights of leaving him to cry and only offering water if he demanded a feed we now have a little boy who eats twice as much during the day and wakes once in the night for a feed.... i let him have that one even though some people say it is not needed...after all i quite often wake in the middle of the night and make a cuppa so why should'nt he! anyway, i know leaving ur little one to cry is not for everyone (i really never thought it was for us) but it did do the trick! good luck

he has breakfast lunch and dinner at 6pm and snacks during the day after dinner a bath and then i take him upto bed about 7/8ish depending when he starts to get grumpy and tyred and give hin a full bottle ( he has cows milk ) and if hes not asleep i put him him his cot and leave him and he usually screams so much i give him more milk till hes asleep

From what you say he's eating during the day, I don't think he's crying from hunger. My DD is 14 months and she has an 8 ounce cup of milk before bed. Dinner is usually at 5 and she's in bed by 6:30. He's probably crying more for the comfort of having you giving him the milk. I would follow Lovemygirls lead and try what she has done to help her little one fall asleep on her own. If he doesn't have anything in bed with him at the moment, introduce a blankie or soft toy that he can use to comfort himself with.

My dts are used to a bottle before bed, they still have one at 6, sometimes need a top up and then another 9oz when we got bed. They are the same age. I'm not worried about it, they will give it up when they are ready.

i think i know why hes been unsettled the last couple of weeks i found he had cut another tooth thismorning :)

Our nearly 10 months old DD, have solid food at lunch then solid food between 16h00 & 16h30, Grown up milk at 18h30 then dreamfeed between 22h00/22h30. And sometimes, at the 18h30 feed, I give her an extra 90ml of milk to help her to fall asleep if she is overtired. She rarely wakes up during the night but if it happens I don't mind giving her more milk to settle her.. Each babies are so different and they do get use to their own routine. Our DD only wants me to give her the 18h30 feed and only wants to drink it in her bedroom (where it is quiet!). Sorry Nuttymum, I am sure I am not helping but I am sure you are doing everything you can