Waking soon after being put down

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Our dd is now 6mo and seems to have been through every sleep issue going! At 3m she was a great sleeper but then the dreaded 4m sleep regression began!! At first the night wajings increased from one at 5am then another at 1am and then hourly! The hourly wake ups have passed (most nights anyhow!). But now she has started a new trend- waking up hourly or half hourly soon after being put down. After 11pm she will usually wake at 1am and then around 4. But she may add in a few more! She has recently started waking at 5am for the day too! After 6 months of poor sleep I'm a zombie and am concerned she isn't getting her quota of sleep. It must be said bad habits have set in as we got to the stage where we would do anything to get some sleep! So she bf to sleep now seems to use the breast for comfort during night wakings(feeds properly at 4am feed tho). She becomes hysterical if we try any other form of soothing such as shush pat, rocking, holding etc. Putting her in her cot is a complete no no. The books that say 'put your baby down sleepy but not asleep' just make me laugh! Her daytime naps are also erratic so pretty much I feel like a failure and am about to collapse from sleep deprivation!! Any ideas welcome!!

Sorry just re-read all my typos! To clarify she sleeps in her cot but putting her in it without feeding doesn't work. Plus I should add she recently started weaning and we recently moved her to her own room (but the waking after being put down started before the transition to her own room).

Not much advice, sorry, but didn't want to read and run.. Just wanted to say you're not alone and definitely not a failure! Probably this isn't what you want to hear, but my DS is still a bit like this now at 22 months.. At that stage, what helped us though was co-sleeping. I know that's not for everyone, but for us it was the first time I had a good night's sleep after giving birth so well worth it. We just took a side of DS's cot so he sleeps in his own space, but night feeds were done asleep and we both woke up in the morning refreshed and happy. Now the only problem with this arrangement are the evenings, as DS doesn't accept that he should be starting the night on his own and wakes up half hourly from 8pm to around 11pm when we all go to sleep , so it's not ideal and have to change this soon. In any case, please don't beat yourself up about it! Looking back, I realise I was so stressed about sleep that I ruined big parts of DS's first year for myself obsessing with all sleep methods known to man and trying to get DS to conform. In our case I stuck with each method for a few weeks before giving up and eventually just went with the flow making sure I at least tried to get DS to have decent naps and bedtime no matter what way it was. I'm not saying you won't succeed, but just saying try and not get too disheartened and just try and enjoy your baby:)..

I've had trouble with my daughter sleeping as well. She's 8 months old. My only suggestion is try having the side of the cot down and the cot up against the bed, then try gradual retreat. My daughter always rolls over to me in the middle of the night, but she'll sleep from 7-10 without waking because I normally come to bed at 10, she tends to look for me around that time. Obviously you have her in her own room, so I don't know if you would want to bring her back into your bedroom.

My daughter hated the cot at first, I gradually got her use to it. Then she hated being put down in the cot, but would go to sleep in the cot if I breastfed her to sleep while in it. Now I put her in awake, with a dummy and she will roll around for a while until she gets tired while I lay next to her on the bed and she falls asleep next to me. the next step will be removing me, so she can fall asleep on her own, but these have all been gradual changes over weeks and weeks. We started when she was 6 months old. This kind of method isn't obviously for everyone as it takes loads of time.

I wish I could give you some miracle advice, but last night she only woke up twice and this is considered a good night for us. So obviously not perfect. I hope we will get there before she is 3 years old soon. Best of luck, I hope you get some sleep soon, we have all been there before and it is rough. Best thing to do is eat lots of cake!

duck no advice but just wanted to say that I am currently doing the evil, dreaded Bf to sleep. I am waiting for the supernanny/Gf police to take me away.

On a more serious note. I think that as your DCs mother you will get to the point where you realise that you are BOTH ready to move on to finding another way to get her down. Unfortunately it will involve lots of hard work sitting on bedroom floor sushing for fucking hours

Sorry, again no advice from me- but sympathy! We're in the exact same place with dc2 (nearly 5mo). I am just now feeding him to sleep after settling him twice already since he went down at 7.30. At night he also wakes frequently, I try to settle without a feed if it's been less than 3 hours. We end up co-sleeping in the small hours but it is really not for me long, or even short term.

My plan of action is to put him in his own room in his cot next week when we get back from a trip away. And do pick up put down for all but a couple of feeds.

It feels young to be doing PUPD- with dc1 we did it at 7mo. But I'm close to breaking point, and his sleep feels like such an utter mess that I can't see any other way of keeping us all sane and me being able to be the best mum I can be to both my children.