2 week old - how the hell do I settle her overnight?

[SoYo]

She feeds every 2.5hrs for 45mins, will fall asleep on my chest afterwards or if walked around & sang to but the second I try to put her in Moses basket she's awake & grumbling.

I have tried hottie in basket, sheepskin, swaddling, white noise, night light, pitch black, co-sleeping (really didn't like, she wouldn't settle & I was petrified). The only place he'll sleep for longer than 15mins is on my chest.

At the moment I'm just about coping ask go to bed 2hrs before her & DH to get some leap in the bank, then he sleeps (badly) overnight & gets up with her at 7am & I have another couple of hours sleep, but he's back at work in a week & every time I think about that I sob uncontrollably as I'm barely coping as it is & just feel shit.

Any advice oh wise mumsnetters?

Hi SoYo I have an 11 week old and have now come through this phase (and it is a phase as both my DDs were like this).

DD1 favoured a rolled up towel down one side to keep her snug, while DD2 likes her space and flinging her arms out.

DH and I took it in shifts to hold her for the first week or so, then we co slept. The one thing I would say is keep putting them down where you want them to sleep for all naps, eventually they get the hang of it. You could try a dummy too if you wanted.

Honestly, I know it's hard work, these first few months really are but it's really, really common for tiny ones to be like this. They still think they're in the womb!

My Dad came up when DD was about 2 weeks old. We couldn't get her to sleep anywhere but on us.

He walked in and asked where the pram was. We fetched it from the garage. He popped her in and went into the kitchen. Every time she cried her picked her up and soothed her. When she was settled he popped her back in the pram. And, made dinner at the same time. He sang as he worked. He didn't jump as soon as she squawked. If he was cutting an onion he washed & dried his hands before lifting her to comfort her. She eventually settled after about 30 minutes. My Dad then sent us to bed and took her out for a walk in the pram.

Watching him I realised we quickly gave up. He just didn't. He kept putting her back - it didn't seem to matter how many times. He was calm. We were not

I also found a sling invaluable. I would really recommend the co-sleeping but without your DH. It took me a week or so to get used to it and then DH came back into the bed. DD was still only on my side though.

All the best.

Co-sleep.

This is all normal - he's used to being curled up in you, he's meant to be on/with you all the time. He will eventually sleep elsewhere, I promise!

um. DD would only sleep on my chest until she was 12+ weeks old (she was premature and had dreadful wind and minor reflux).

I learned to sleep (badly) half sitting up propped up by many pillows, with my arms around dd, elbows propped by more pillows. DH slept in another room.

it passed...

Logged on at midnight to ask exactly the same thing, but you've beaten me to it, SoYo. Can't really advise, just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

Last night I tried feeding her, changing her, playing for a bit, and when she'd finally calmed down and stopped screaming about the mean people who didn't want to cuddle her, we wrapped her up extra tight, shoved a dummy in her mouth, and held it there until she drifted off. We've also got the mattress raised at one end with a towel under it, which seems to help.

Lovely story about your dad, stargirl. Kept thinking about that one last night whenever she squawked and started flailing.

It's supposed to be like this! please don't stress, it'll pass in time, just try to roll with it.

This is what new born babies DO

Do whatever it takes to let them sleep. That's the easiest thing. I know no option is exactly easy as such but you'll get used to it and then she'll do something different. Tis the way