My dd ws an angel and from 6 days only had one feed in the night, from 6 weeks slept from 8pm till 6 am. over a few weeks that went 8pm till 7.30am. it was great.hit 6 months and teething started and with that disturbed nights. she also seemed to have illness after illness and as she suffers febrile convulsions we ended up in hospital a few times so we got into the routine of having 2 bottles at night ( 4 oz) then at 10 months i said enough was enough and it took a few days but we got her down to waking once at night between 12 and 3 and having a drink of cows milk. took 5 mins and she would go straight off. ( didnt mind that as she needs to drink alot)
well 4 weeks ago i started childminding. it is a little boy we have seen 3 times a week since she was 4 months and she adores him. he is a bit of a cry baby ( same age) and his mum says that as well, if you look at him wrong he will cry. he is settling in nicely and all going well. his mum says no change at home with him.But my daughter has gone so scared of sleeping. she will go off happily if she is in my arms, or if she is in a pushchair next to me, but unlike before she will scream hysterically if in her cot alone. ( yet will be fine if i sit in chair next to cot, but not toucing her etc)
but the worse thing is that she cant go longer than an hour and a half without waking up screaming, all she wants is to see me. sometimes i have to cuddle her, othertimes just stay with her till she goes to sleep again.
i have tried, cuddling her back to sleep hoping that if she knows im there when she needs me she might relax and sleep. tried that for 3 nights, no difference. i have tried going in and calming her and then leaving. ( sort of baby whisperer method) again no change. I have tried leaving her, and about 30% of the time she will cry for 10 mins and settle, but other times she gets soo worked up she just wont stop and my dp cant stand it.
she has been walking for a while now, so i am trying to give her lots of chances to run around, parks, ball pits etc. she has always had a bath time routine, and she knows and loves it.
i just dont understand what it could be or what to do. but being woken up every hour and a half is starting to take its toll on me as i cant go easily back to sleep. me and dp are ttc but now he is questioning if he could cope if we had another.
any words of advice would be great, or if needed a cyper smack and being told just to get on with it. i just cant believe how much it is effecting us and upsetting me.
sorry its long. x