How can I break current routine - don't know where to start!

[milkyman]

Hi, just tried to put baby boy in his cot - didn't go down well! He is 19wks. We usually give him a bath and he then falls asleep on daddys lap. Daddy then transfers to moses basket, wakes him up around 10.30 for dream feed and brings him into cot in our room. I go to bed at 8pm so get a head start on sleep as he wakes often in the night.

How can we start changing this. Hubby wants his evening back and we don't want to have do this for months on end. Have we left it too late?

Your husband wants his evening back? Apart from having a napping baby on him and then placing him in a moses basket - how exactly has DH's evenings changed since before?

That's not the only reason, just read back my post and it sound like it was just for hubby but for me too! I want to see if it will improve his sleep at night as he currently wakes up 3 to 4 times

Small changes usually work best. So try rolling the same routine but have the Moses basket in the cot. If that works for a couple of nights then try putting your DS in the cot either asleep or very sleepy. Put a hot water bottle in the cot first - if your DS is used to falling asleep against a warm body, the cot will feel too cold at first.

Is your DS waking lots at night to feed? If so, you might need to try to increase how much he feeds in the day. If you don't think he is really hungry at night but is feeding for comfort then either a dummy or a small bottle of water might work.

Not rolling, meant following - stupid phone.

I would say what is happening is normal for his age. We didn't really get any semblance of "evening back" in the first 5 months and even after that we were up and down the stairs numerous times when we tried to put him in his own room. What is wrong with him having a sleeping baby on his lap anyway? Id have thought it was quite nice.

Unfortunately you are at a bad time for night sleep. 4 month sleep regression plus growth spurt probably. A lot of babies apparently get more hungry or just more wakeful in the night at that age. It doesn't last forever. My DS is now 10 months, he gets put in his cot at 8pm (I still rock him to sleep but that works for us) and often, unless he is unwell or teething, we don't hear another peep till 3am. it is lovely to have some down time in the evening but be patient. it will stress you out more trying to do things that don't work.