Non sleeping 18mth old *on my knees!*

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DS2 was a reasonable sleeper until 8mths. He still has never slept through the night.

We did/are doing gradual withdrawal (he used to need to hold your hand, which is fine once or twice a night but every hour is pushing it!). I hoped if he learnt to fall asleep on his own he would be better.

But he is still terrible.........woke every hour last night. I am so so tired. Co-sleeping is not for us.

He has never woke in his cot and not screamed, not once. But wakes happily at nursery on a mat.

So thinking shall I

a) put him in his brothers room - he seems ok if he can see someone (DS1 sleeps like a log)
b) Try a bed, know i will have to put him back a lot, but he seems to dislike the cot
c)Sell him on ebay? (at 4am this morning when I needed to be up at 6am for work I could have happily done this!)

Help, I'm actually on my knees with tiredness, it is affecting my marriage (we are both so tired)

I have a 3 year old non sleeper - option C makes sense to me!

Seriously though, perhaps he is ready for a bed at least then the transition is made so you can concentrate on the sleeping rather than getting it sorted and then having to move to a bed.

Does he have a nightlight?

Sirzy - tried a night light, but may try again. I was thinking that about a bed, will just get him settled then will need to move him. He is a very agile, climbing monster, so only a matter of time before he throws himself over!

DS1 didn't sleep through until he was 2yrs 3 mths, you think I would have learnt my lesson!

I have a non-sleeping 16 month old. Went back to work 2 months ago, I think I am dying. I posted about it last week, here.

Urgh we have a non sleeping almost two year old and I feel your pain, he also has never woken up not screaming, and we are also doing gradual retreat......but still haven't moved away from the cot and its been about three weeks. Had been thinking about moving him to a bed as well but don't have the energy to keep putting I'm back (33 weeks pregnant)
Will be watching this thread with interest to see what others advise!

Thank you BikeRunSki have just had a look at your thread. Some ideas on there to try. I'm sorry you're having a tough time.

My lovely DM had offered to have him sat night, wouldn't have done it with DS1 (would have fretted - me not him!) but I just need a good night sleep. House is so small would need to sleep downstairs to get some peace, and the conservatory with no curtains scares me!

Sorry op just realised I didn't help with my comment at all or offer any advice......but wanted to let you know you're not alone! Dh and I take it in turns to do the night shift which helps a bit but were both so exhausted we don't have much time for each other :(

Highlandbird - took 3 weeks to get DS2 to accept me not holding his hand, now 5 weeks on I'm virtually out the door! You must be so tired.

highlandbird - it does help to know its not just me, feel like a failure. To add to it I'm a nursery nurse!

I know what you mean about feeling like a failure as well.....fed up of friends telling me how well their dc's have slept since 6 weeks old etc etc but I've learnt to accept that we don't all have placid, wonderfully 'well behaved' children, DS is a clingy child at the best of times and that seems to extend to night time, he has gone through phases of sleeping quite well but it never seems to last very long doesn't matter what I try. Bet dc2 will be a sleep dodger as well!
Hope it gets better for you soon, will persevere with the gradual retreat....
And good on your mum for offering you a night off, she sounds fab!!

Sure I will get flamed for this but........went down the CC route.

1st night took 35 minutes of me popping in and out (12 times), woke at 3.30am, took 6 minutes and 3 trips in and out. To be fair he was cross not upset, but I still feel bad.

2nd night took 1 minute to go off and woke twice but only 1 minute and 2 visits each time.

Hoping we have turned a corner